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Thank you for this wonderful reminder.
Just want to say that whilst I’m this guy for my son it’s not a given your dad is like this. But it should be and I wish everyone a dad like this. For me my mom was this person.
Buried my dad 17 years ago. Completely devastating for me.
My dad is 85. I talked to him yesterday and cherish each conversation.
He is gone. Waited for me so I could tell him I would take care of all. Answered ok and was gone. Respect.
My dad left way too early, I was 7 at the time. With certainty the most devastating moment in my life to this day. Cherish every instant you have with your parents, and when things turn in the wrong direction, apologize & live onward carrying the cure-all deep inside of you, always, love. ❤️✨
Not in my case! Full of hidden agendas, always playing mind games, and moving goal posts so there was no way to win. I don't know about jealousy, but it seemed like it. There was evidence of competition too.
No every parent is a good person.
I was quite relieved that I wouldn't have to encounter him when I learned that he died. I knew he would never acknowledge his abusive behavior, unwarranted insults, or blaming me for being related to my mother; much less apologize like the man he taught me to be.
Fuck those types of shitbags. Ditch them, and never regret it, as staying in an abusive relationship is self disrespect.
A man is an adult human male. Everything else is bullshit gender ideology.
Only an adult human male can become a man, but not every adult human male is one.
Wish I could call mine. But I buried him a long time ago.
Doing origamis with my son ATM.
Maybe one day he'll think of this moment with his dad as I think of similar moments with mine.
You can't forgive someone that doesn't have remorse.
In fact, forgiving someone that isn't sorry is disrespectful. It's an "I'm better than you" power play.
Been there. Thirty years ago this Sept. He was 59. I unexpectedly found him dead. This post is 💯.
Sadly not every father is like this.
Some kids are not bothered by their dead at all. I am one of them.
Me the same. I'm glad that he is gone.
I had exactly the same experience. He was his own planet. No bridges. Not the same language.
Losing my father was tough. I never could trust him. He was born with all the money in the world and proceeded to lose it all. What's worse is that he lost his family along with it and he could never come to terms that it was his fault. In the end he died homeless outside of a McDonalds in Dallas, where I was born; full circle. I talked to him every day before then, event though I knew he would never be there for us. I tired to help him so many times, but he could never help himself 😔
I considered not posting this. But maybe someone can relate.
I thought very much like that until a week ago. Now I get the feeling a shift is coming and I can probably understand and forgive, as much as that can be done while keeping healthy boundaries. I am not there yet lol.
There may also be psychological benefit in connecting with an archetypal father internally, if the real thing is not worth the effort.
Being willing to forgive is not the same as performing the act. An act which requires more than one person, and if done respectfully, is conditional.
Let follow each other guys
#God bless 🙏 all dads
Do you repost this every day? How many times I gotta scroll past this cornball shit?
I lost my father when I was two. I know all of these things from then.
My Dad & my beautiful grandmother died on the same day years apart. My dad went first. 😢 17yrs my Baki, 6yrs.
Life is always a test. 🧡
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Love you Dad! Wish you would've gotten to see your 5 grand kids.
YEAH MY DAD NOT SO MUCH.....
maybe i’m talkin out my ass but if plan A didn’t work plan b and having split family doesn’t cut it. sadness still resides, living the path of a failure everyday are the only terms, if u don’t fool yourself to live in a distracted world high on stuff!
i’m a father, my father is alive.
