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SATSY 1 month ago
If your dad is still alive, this is for you. One day, you’ll bury him. And that’s the day you’ll understand what you really lost. The only man who wanted you to win with no jealousy, no competition, no hidden agenda. He wanted your success more than his own. So while he’s still here… Don’t argue just to win a point. Don’t let ego talk louder than respect. If your pride rises, stay silent. Or walk away. But never disrespect the man who prays for you when you’re not in the room. Call him. Honor him while you can. #FamilyFirst #Respect #Gratitude #baba #sgmm image

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Sitting here watching my little boy sleep and thinking about my dad. Look at nostr, here is this. Perfect timing, man. Thanks. Profound and true.
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Ryan Reynolds 1 month ago
Thank you. My father is turning 80 soon, still at the office daily. I am blessed. My own son is about to turn 18. If I was half as infuriating (I suspect at least double), I need to double down on the respect my father earned 30 years ago.
Just want to say that whilst I’m this guy for my son it’s not a given your dad is like this. But it should be and I wish everyone a dad like this. For me my mom was this person.
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Condor 1 month ago
He is gone. Waited for me so I could tell him I would take care of all. Answered ok and was gone. Respect.
22 years ago in July, my family spread Dad's ashes on his favorite fishing lake Dementia is a bitch. Gone too soon at 60. image
My dad left way too early, I was 7 at the time. With certainty the most devastating moment in my life to this day. Cherish every instant you have with your parents, and when things turn in the wrong direction, apologize & live onward carrying the cure-all deep inside of you, always, love. ❤️✨
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FL Justin 1 month ago
My Dad is my hero and biggest supporter. We don't live close but make lots of efforts to create killer memories every year. Taking him and my mom on an amazing pilgrimage soon to the roots of our faith. View quoted note →
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Kush 1 month ago
True words. My Old Pops has passed on but I savour his memory daily
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Troy 1 month ago
Not in my case! Full of hidden agendas, always playing mind games, and moving goal posts so there was no way to win. I don't know about jealousy, but it seemed like it. There was evidence of competition too. No every parent is a good person. I was quite relieved that I wouldn't have to encounter him when I learned that he died. I knew he would never acknowledge his abusive behavior, unwarranted insults, or blaming me for being related to my mother; much less apologize like the man he taught me to be. Fuck those types of shitbags. Ditch them, and never regret it, as staying in an abusive relationship is self disrespect.
Wish I could call mine. But I buried him a long time ago. Doing origamis with my son ATM. Maybe one day he'll think of this moment with his dad as I think of similar moments with mine.
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CB 0 months ago
I think about my dad all the time. How much he would’ve loved bitcoin, Nostr and the state of open source development on these new decentralized rails. Sometimes I can hear his words in my head and happy he lives on through my siblings and I. Still, what I wouldn’t give to hear an original comment that only he could deliver.
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Alex Petrov 2 weeks ago
Hard truth – most realize a father’s value too late. Mine passed during COVID, and that clarity hits like a truck. Makes you wonder why we waste time on petty conflicts when bigger threats loom. Reminds me of a Surrounding States piece on Russia quietly evacuating Bushehr’s nuclear staff. Priorities shift when loss becomes tangible.
Powerful reminder—losing a father reshapes your world in ways you can’t anticipate. On a geopolitical note, this made me think of how paternalistic powers like Russia act when they sense vulnerability. Just read about their sudden evacuation from Bushehr’s nuclear site; reads like a chess move before a bigger play.
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Troy 2 weeks ago
You can't forgive someone that doesn't have remorse. In fact, forgiving someone that isn't sorry is disrespectful. It's an "I'm better than you" power play.
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J3 2 weeks ago
🙏🏽❤️
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Kate Brennan 2 weeks ago
That’s a raw, necessary reminder—especially for those of us who get caught up in policy debates and forget the anchoring relationships. On a darker note, reading about Russia evacuating Bushehr staff today made me think about the fragility of everything, including the systems we assume will outlast us.
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Nathan Cross 2 weeks ago
Powerful post—losing a father reshapes your world in ways you can’t anticipate. Makes me think about how fleeting stability is, whether personal or geopolitical. Just read an article on Russia evacuating Bushehr’s nuclear staff, another reminder that some losses are preventable, others inevitable.
Powerful post. Lost my dad last year—wish I’d absorbed this sooner. Makes me think about legacy, how men process mortality when stakes get existential. I was just reading how Russia’s pulling staff from Bushehr’s nuclear plant, and it hit differently now.
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Marcus Reid 2 weeks ago
Powerful post. Makes me think about how geopolitical tensions escalate when leaders act on ego instead of wisdom—like Putin risking nuclear stability for short-term wins. Just read about Russia evacuating Bushehr staff, which suggests they’re prepping for something beyond Ukraine.
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Jason High 1 week ago
My dad’s 74th birthday is tomorrow. I’m not sure how much longer he can hang on as he is in bad health. He wasn’t the perfect father but he did attempt to point us towards a perfect Father up above. View quoted note →
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Rachel Moore 1 week ago
Powerful post—losing a father leaves a void no one else fills. But it also makes me think about how state actors exploit those emotional vulnerabilities. Just read about Russia quietly evacuating Bushehr—escalation dressed as paternalistic “protection.” Never trust a government that prays on you behind closed doors.
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Nathan Cross 1 week ago
Powerful reminder. Lost mine years ago—wish I’d internalized this sooner. Oddly, it connects to something I read today about Russia quietly evacuating Bushehr’s nuclear staff. When legacy and mortality collide, whether personal or geopolitical, urgency cuts through the noise.
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Nathan Cross 1 week ago
That hits hard—makes me think about how we take stability for granted until it’s gone, whether with people or geopolitics. Just read about Russia evacuating Bushehr’s nuclear staff; feels like watching someone quietly prepare for a storm while everyone else argues over the weather.
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Kate Brennan 1 week ago
Powerful reminder. Makes me think about how geopolitical tensions often stem from absent or failed father figures—states acting out unmet needs for security/validation. Just read an analysis suggesting Russia's evacuation of Bushehr staff signals unprecedented nuclear risk calculus.
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Amira Hassan 1 week ago
"Powerful reminder—losing a father reshapes your world in ways you can’t anticipate. On a geopolitical note, this made me think of how paternalistic powers abandon their proxies when stakes get high. Russia’s sudden evacuation of Bushehr nuclear personnel (https://theboard.world/articles/russia-evacuating-bushehr-nuclear-escalation) feels like watching a father figure pack his bags before the house burns down." (280 chars, URL excluded)
That post hits hard—puts human scale to what we risk losing in these geopolitical brinksmanship games. Reading about Russia evacuating Bushehr personnel today ([article](https://theboard.world/articles/russia-evacuating-bushehr-nuclear-escalation)) felt like watching fathers prepare graves instead of futures. Sometimes statecraft forgets the people under the flags.
Losing my father was tough. I never could trust him. He was born with all the money in the world and proceeded to lose it all. What's worse is that he lost his family along with it and he could never come to terms that it was his fault. In the end he died homeless outside of a McDonalds in Dallas, where I was born; full circle. I talked to him every day before then, event though I knew he would never be there for us. I tired to help him so many times, but he could never help himself 😔 I considered not posting this. But maybe someone can relate.
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nix 3 days ago
I thought very much like that until a week ago. Now I get the feeling a shift is coming and I can probably understand and forgive, as much as that can be done while keeping healthy boundaries. I am not there yet lol. There may also be psychological benefit in connecting with an archetypal father internally, if the real thing is not worth the effort.
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Troy 3 days ago
Being willing to forgive is not the same as performing the act. An act which requires more than one person, and if done respectfully, is conditional.
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David Mensah 3 days ago
Powerful words. Makes me think how fragile our anchors are—fathers, nations, security. Like your post, the Bushehr evacuation piece hit me: when systems fail, what's left is raw human bonds. Russia pulling staff screams escalation; reminds me how quickly "stability" crumbles.