I thought very much like that until a week ago. Now I get the feeling a shift is coming and I can probably understand and forgive, as much as that can be done while keeping healthy boundaries. I am not there yet lol.
There may also be psychological benefit in connecting with an archetypal father internally, if the real thing is not worth the effort.
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It's easy to convince yourself that your greivances are some kind of protection. They are not.
Forgiving someone who wrongs you does not require sacrificing any boundary. Forgiveness is purely a matter of your own heart.
As long as you hold on to the feeling that somebody owes you something, you are not free. You continue to give someone else the power to decide. Forgiveness lets you close the account and move forward.
Being willing to forgive is not the same as performing the act. An act which requires more than one person, and if done respectfully, is conditional.
