Bullshit and rationalization. Forgiveness is an act of the will and doesn't depend on anyone but you and God. And God already weighed in. Do you know who St. Maria Goretti is? You decide to forgive or you remain a child, blaming everyone else for your own moral decisions.

So, you're saying God forgives everyone automatically? There's no need to ask for forgiveness? Also, just because I can point out that not all parents are respectful to their children does not mean that I blame everyone else for anything. I would think that a "man" calling me a child could see that.

I had exactly the same experience. He was his own planet. No bridges. Not the same language.

I thought very much like that until a week ago. Now I get the feeling a shift is coming and I can probably understand and forgive, as much as that can be done while keeping healthy boundaries. I am not there yet lol. There may also be psychological benefit in connecting with an archetypal father internally, if the real thing is not worth the effort.