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When you are talking to a therapist and realize
For self-esteem, yes. Talking won’t change anything.
But if you have mental issues, still go see a doc.
No sound but still funny…
Sound works for me if you use amethyst got to toggle the volume button.
Now you've really hurt my feelings. Except that I'm a man so I don't have feelings.
What are feelings anyway?
I consider myself a man and I enjoy crying, it can be out of pure joy or grief or just watching a great movie. So no, we cry everywhere.
You may, we don't 💛
Therapy can save lives, have you ever had a diagnosed depression? I see you took therapy and haven’t gotten much out of it which is totally fine, but there are people with suicidal thoughts, war traumas out there, people that can’t even put a foot outside because of severe social paranoia and often times therapy helps in these cases to at least make them able to go grab some groceries.
Honest question: wouldn’t you wish your parents or grandparents would’ve had some kind of therapy? My life would look a lot better now in my case…
Psychologist here... I disagree. I do care about my patients. I do hope they find peace and fulliment and healing. Yes, getting reciprocity back is helpful as being in a space of dedication to help someone is very hard work physically and emotionally.
Psychologist here and I disagree. As that is not what I have seen in my practice and the research also shows psychotherapy overall have positive impacts in people's lives.
Your patient’s are blessed to have you but it’s not to be ignored that you have colleagues who go to work solely for compensation.
luke warm take.
therapy was one of the best things I've ever done.
then so again was going doing things.
As a psychologist why do you think mental illness is increasing broadly across the board despite the fact that we have more people in therapy than ever before?
Thanks. That’s appreciated. Namaste 🙏
don't let your societal categories dictate what you should or should not do.
this person gets daily affirmation by talking on the internet. community *is* a form of therapy.
View quoted note →I’ve been extremely depressed before yes and I’ve seen a few therapists and I didn’t feel it was helpful at all. In fact I would say actively harmful in most cases.
I can see both perspectives, my grip is with licensing from the state and the obligations and perspectives it forces on to the therapist client relationship. I believe that should be sacred first and foremost, and I struggle to see how it can be that with the state in between. And this is not unique to this relationship, but doctors, teachers, and all relationships in which ‘licensing’ is the only way to attain such a practice.
Good post.
Seal of approval from me. 🎯
Diagnosed?
Idk honestly. I don’t remember. They might have tried to diagnose me, but that’s not something I would have accepted. I reject all these mental health labels. It’s normal to be depressed. Most people will be at some point in their life.
bro, we’re not your fucking therapist
Jfc this is poisonous
I can’t speak for others, only myself. If someone has intriguing ideas, I listen. If I recommend someone listen to Saifedean or Saylor, or
@Lyn Alden it’s because I think incorporating some of their ideas to shape your perception of reality, can make your life better. It’s not because I worship them, I just appreciate the ideas they have to offer.
Sure thing. Everyone chooses their choices. Human rights dictate that. IDGAF what anyone else does. It’s annoying AF to see so many **speaking** that lack character but it’s typical. Hence why I stayed offline for so long & changed the world. 😂🙏
Talking about emotions doesn't really help to anyone. Women go crazy - they meet with their girl friends and then "ventilate" to each other, basically throwing their shit onto others so they feel temporarily lighter.
Emotions are the very essence of being a human. You don't need to talk about them, you need to talk to yourself and ask yourself "what do I believe to be true in order for me to feel this way"? That's how you detect belief.
The triangle of human psyche is composed from beliefs that lead to emotions and based on how we feel, we perform actions (or not). Only action and doing won't bring you what you want (masculine principle), or it may happen but with crazy amount of efforting. The same as only being emotional and fantasizing (female principle) without taking action won't bring you result you seek and life you want. It's about balance of both energies: masculine and feminine that exist in each of us.
So, you don't need to talk about emotions, but you own yourself to stop hidding them, pushing away and repressing them. They have nowhere to go but in your subconscious mind and the body and then backfire.
So, see them, acknowledge them, detect your belief, center yourself (power of now) and choose again. That's bringing unconscious to the conscious - freedom to choose. Otherwise, you will be the victim of your negative emotions and creating unconsciously.
Ps: warm advice from ex therapist. Take it or not.
Yes, that is why I retired my license. Now I work in the private under a Private Membership Association. I do NOT get involved with the state.
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Good question, although one that has a complex answer. However, I will do my best.
First, I would say it starts in the family environment. Most parents are not trained to holistically raise their children (physical, emotional, and spiritual). They have allowed the state to dupe them into state propaganda which is antithetical to holistic intelligence. Moreover, parents really can't find good practical help in understanding how their child's world works (their thoughts and emotions). Additionally, with parents, they are ever increasing in their busyness throughout the day, as the fiat system is designed to always require more labor to uphold the basic needs of a family.
Second, a lot of us (and to your original note) do not want to take responsibility for our own actions.
Third, too much inauthentic stimulation. Social media, fear prorogation, and unhealthy foods and water.
To combine it all, we have not had the best parenting, which creates the symptoms of abdication of our responsibility while the state socially engineers our environment around us to pull us away from authenticity from ourselves and Nature.
Yeah but that was true a generation ago as well and the rates of mental illness aren’t as high as they are now.
“Poisonous”
Why?
Bitcoin nostr is my ever expanding group therapy session and you’re all apart of it
Lift weights 💪
Gym, gun range, golf course, racetrack, cigar lounge… all better therapy for men than actual therapy.
Therapy can be helpful for some men.
My buddy recently started seeing a therapist for the first time, and he told me it’s really helping with his depression.
+1
I found talking to a neutral party about the exact ways my parents fell short an important step towards getting ahold of my emotional self in the present
And convincing my dad to go for a bit did wonders for our relationship
I would say “some therapy” might be the answer but “more therapy” probably isn’t
Or even better, realize there is no such thing as a static “self”. You can be whoever you want to be, or you can change how you think about your problems. Both can work. One is unconditional.
Self-esteem, self-respect, and even the concept of ‘being a man’, they’re just memes for the weak-minded to justify existence. One is not truly free until they stop chasing the fantasy and just observe the reality.
Psychologist speaking: 💯 correct
My son started boxing recently. It’s been great for him. 🥊
Thank you for the co sign. Lots of triggered people in the replies.
It’s true
Brother… true words. We gots to get out into the world and do shit. Break a sweat, stretch the brain, tense some muscle
Pain is temporary. Pride is forever.
Truth
Stack more Sats and keep learning about Bitcoin😎
One more thing I'd suggest is to inspect your surroundings. Often, men with low self-esteem are in environments that rely on them staying that way - they might face criticism or be asked to tone down when they take bold steps.
If your surroundings are supportive, it's a completely different ballgame, especially if you have a few true friends with whom you can honestly talk when things aren't perfect.
So, definitely go out and do things, but if you're still struggling - for instance, feeling depressed because you don't have anyone to share your wins with - it might be time to upgrade your surroundings and build up a bit more support for yourself.
I can tell you have affirmation from your loved ones AND you take it for granted, by how you boast about your self-esteem while pretending it comes from within.
I wonder about medication through psychiatry also. Seems like that is an underappreciated risk factor for some people, as many medications have side effects that are unpleasant and even harmful.
And might it be true that finding a good psychologist is like finding a good teacher is like finding a good guru is like finding a good investment advisor, there are a whole bell curve of possibilities and everyone is looking for the right tail?
Many of the medications just straight up don’t work either. I would say most of them. “Chemical Imbalance” is bullshit.
Any good therapist will give you real concrete action steps to take post-session.
100% waffle is for women
Aaaaaaaaand there goes the female populus on Nostr!
Ah, great job. Good to see this in trending.
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... not. x.x *facepalm*
Not to mention “therapy” is pseudoscience at best
So you guys weren't using nostr for therapy? 😂
HODL
If you’re a man who’s struggling with low self esteem let me tell you going to therapy isn’t going to help.
The only way to fix it is to do things worthy of esteem.
We aren’t women.
Talking about our problems isn’t the solution.
Go do things in the world.
You will feel better about yourself.
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Longest fucking thread ever or what? Pretty cool and important topic…
Excess is the undoing of men!
That is all. Took me a while and still is to follow it through
TheRapists only send you to the pHarmacy
TheRapist gave him happy pills from the pHarmacy. Be careful around him in future. SSRIs cause random and illogical violence.
HODL
If you’re a man who’s struggling with low self esteem let me tell you going to therapy isn’t going to help.
The only way to fix it is to do things worthy of esteem.
We aren’t women.
Talking about our problems isn’t the solution.
Go do things in the world.
You will feel better about yourself.
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I think it‘s both. It‘s easy to run from your demons and escape into work. But I agree you need meaningful work. The best is when you find something that gives you purpose and allows you to constantly move out of your comfort zone with small wins. That‘s what builds confidence.
This bit by Lex and Levelsio also inspired me to start building software again when I was going through a difficult period
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@levelsio (@levelsio) on X
😊 My dad's advice helped me a lot when I was depressed and my life was falling apart 10 years ago
“If you're depressed: go outside, get a big...
gotta say a life coach has been a game changer for me this year. I had tons of action and success but was still depressed and stressed to the max.
This is solid advice for (non traumatized) teenage boys.
However, if you want to be a real 💯 Man 💪🏼, the way that God intended you to become... you need to be able to sit comfortably with your feminine aspect (emotions: it's a scary word for many men). The strongest male role models that I have had in my life were incredibly high T, but could also cry at appropriate times, happy or sad, and were masters at communication and empathy.
Every human has this psychological/emotional dichotomy of masculine and feminine "energies", the world is not black and white, and if you are not in touch with both aspects and how they are balanced within you, then you are still only half an adult.
Suppression of emotions does not work forever, not without severe negative consequences on you and the ones close to you.
Go build something, create value to others, give from what you are given, MAKE the world a better place and when you get knocked down on your arse so hard that you don't see the way back up, find someone to talk to, preferably a friend or family member, but if they aren't available... maybe a priest/religious leader, failing that... a therapist might work for you? But do be careful... there are wolves in the forest (i.e. therapists just looking for a pay cheque)
HODL
If you’re a man who’s struggling with low self esteem let me tell you going to therapy isn’t going to help.
The only way to fix it is to do things worthy of esteem.
We aren’t women.
Talking about our problems isn’t the solution.
Go do things in the world.
You will feel better about yourself.
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life coach is not a fucking therapist
exposed your external locus of control with the "don't you wish" statement lol
go do something
Gonna be honest this mindset is literally the reason there is a "male loneliness crisis". Talk to people! Build connections! Talk about your emotions!
YOU CAN JUST DO STUFF
I guess I see where you're coming from. Thing is that when things are so convoluted as they are now in this world, there is more guidance needed. And therapy is often exaxtly that: You get your thoughts sorted and then you get a lot of homework to do (often uncomfortable stuff). So it's not even so much talking at all depending on the therapy you're doing.
Normalize not telling people what does and doesn't work for them.
View quoted note →I am honing my craft on a daily basis and additionally I try to understand myself better and therapy is one way to achieve this.
Because they have empathy with the victim of the story and don't realize that it takes a victim to have empathy in the first place.
90% of therapists stabilize a harmful condition. That is cruel. 10% helpful therapy doesn't make up for it.
When family members of alcoholics do this shit, we call it codependency, but when a shrink does it, we call it therapy. Funny.
I are in part. That does a great deal for men, but there is a need for wisdom. Something that seems to be as scarce as Bitcoin, and both are necessary.
*agree in part
Man that is so true
Sure talk to people of course. Therapy is something im skeptical of though.
How does a life coach work? I don’t have any experience there?
My uncle has a poster that says, "You never see a motorcycle parked outside a psychiatrist office."
I have no way to confirm that, but it rings true.
The power process comes to mind.
Therapy is about you putting in the work and learning the skill of self reflection and resilience. Like any skill long term practice refines that skill but is not essential.
Doing things in the world is also a key part to living your best life and getting out a rut.
Not a man vs woman thing in my opinion.
Two good reasons to talk to valuable friends about problems, neither of which are "unloading" or "venting" (which I agree is not helpful):
- seeking advice from someone whose opinion you value
- maintaining a networking of connections who care about each other doing well and know when one of their network is having a hard time
These are both action-oriented activities that prevent people from becoming isolated. Interestingly enough, a therapist provides neither in a genuine manner.
Sure, I agree. But my reply was direct response to OP and the idea "guys should not talk about emotions".
I like when people put things in quotes that I didn’t say. As if that’s my actual quote.
I put it in quotes as the essence of the message since you said men should not talk about problems but act. Since the underlying topic here are emotions really and what to do with them, I gave myself the freedom to pull out the topic and put it in the quotes. Sorry that triggered you somehow. No bad intentions from my side. You can be sure of that.
You’re quoting me though lol quote me accurately. Not your idea of what I said.
Yeah, but I wasn't quoting you but put the theme of the post under quotes. Like theme for an essay...geee
lol listen I’m not triggered, that’s just ya know… not how quotes work girl.
We still frenz though ❤️
Partially true. Life is more nuanced.
Low self esteem can manifest in different ways, and talking is essential in the thinking process. Why do you think we value free speech so much?
So many times we hide low self esteem by "doing" things as a way of escaping instead of facing the fears right on. For that you need to understand patterns of the mind, your self and your shadow.
So the actual good advice is: yes, totally go do things in the physical world *and* consider talking to a good therapist.
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The few therapists which I have worked with that were good were in training or fresh out. They still cared.
There was a time when my dream was to become a psychotherapist. Today I think shrooms and The Completion Process greatly outperform psychotherapy, regardless of the therapist.
Looking forward to my first ayahuasca trip :-)
HODL
If you’re a man who’s struggling with low self esteem let me tell you going to therapy isn’t going to help.
The only way to fix it is to do things worthy of esteem.
We aren’t women.
Talking about our problems isn’t the solution.
Go do things in the world.
You will feel better about yourself.
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lol
Manly man don’t do therapies
I think you're not wrong about self-esteem improving from doing things that are productive however this is not the case for people of dealing with an actual mental illness. My dad was a very productive person but that didn't stop him from taking his own life earlier this year. I truly think if he would talk to somebody about his anxiety issues it would have helped him get through it.I went to therapy right after it happened and it helped me immensely. with that said I still do agree with what you say and that most people probably don't need therapy, they need to find something that gives them purpose.
You can actually do both
Creation is the key to everything.
can’t live without it and haven’t even mastered it yet … an espresso shot, with skills and wisdom
really gotta be the right person tho
I’ll explain to you at dinner next week or likely over cocktail this weekend
Volunteer at a shelter, food bank, etc. Go help lift up your fellow man. The more you give to others the less you think of yourself. . . Your self esteem will rise.
This is true. The woke commies keep wanting to dissolve gender differences. that needs to stop.
the more testosterone activities for men in my life, the happier they seem to be. Handstand pushups are also hot.
Fuck yes
I own two construction companies. I have and still continue to actually labor on the job sites for over 20 years in construction. My body has more scars than I can count. Physical pain is way easier in my opinion than mental pain. I’ve had numerous sessions with a therapist and it helped tremendously. Luckily, most individuals don’t rely on others to validate them.
The fact that you posted this says a lot about you and I hope it was sarcasm for your sake.
English is not my mother tongue, my point was clear. so fuck off if you are not trying to answer anyways 🤡
tell me you used chatgpt without telling me you used chatgpt
you german faggots are the worszt
ping me on the signal
Check DM
I didn’t use ChatGPT, you can actually scan my sentences to see if it was used.
With the caveat that I haven't been to therapy, and hence don't know the full details of the particular subject of this thread, that is exactly what I don't like in Bitcoin circles. While there are many, probably even a decent majority, of reasonable bitcoiners, there seems to be a disproportionately large portion of people with Tate-ish opinions (regarding a certain few subjects), compared to people in general. I even see it (or perhaps I should say hear it) radicalizing certain podcasters over time, them becoming more and more hateful towards people not sharing the Ideals(TM). This itself can't be good for their own mental health, and if there's anything we don't need in the Bitcoin community, its division over matters that are irrelevant to Bitcoin and its future.
no i can't, sample size is too small. nobody cares anyways. byeeee~~
Bye!
replies be like
So glad I have no idea what you are talking about. Maybe cull your “feed”. More signal. Less noise. What you give your attention to is YOUR choice. No one else’s.
Becoming self sovereign is about far more than Bitcoin. 👁️🪬💓🧬
Sorry to hear about your dad brother
Living in la-la-land isn't good either. Then reality has a tendency to, seemingly but actually not, suddenly, punch you in the face.
There is no objective “reality”. Yours is yours. Mine is mine. And WE are creating and re-creating it in every moment. You can verify this for yourself if you slow the mind enough.
👁️🪬💓🧬
Of course there's an objective reality, though no human, and no AI either for that matter, is able to see its entirety. However, you can see an approximation in some level of fidelity, and aspects of reality can make themselves known in unpleasant ways if you ignore them. If you walk with your eyes closed, the wall in front of you doesn't cease to exist, you will hit it.
You are free to “believe” what you choose. But the science is pretty settled. Just as the yogis and sages have been saying for millennia….
Scientific American
How to Prove the Universe Is Not Locally Real
Elegant experiments with entangled light have laid bare a profound mystery at the heart of reality
Beyond this, the recent work of Donald Hoffman is quite…..en-light-ening 👁️
Be well brother 🙏🏻
From what I understand, such phenomena are pretty much inconsequential at normal scales, temperatures and pressures, and not affected by consciousness per se, but by measuring, which can't be done without disturbing the tiny particles/waves in question. I'll continue keeping my eyes open when walking...
