This is solid advice for (non traumatized) teenage boys.
However, if you want to be a real 💯 Man 💪🏼, the way that God intended you to become... you need to be able to sit comfortably with your feminine aspect (emotions: it's a scary word for many men). The strongest male role models that I have had in my life were incredibly high T, but could also cry at appropriate times, happy or sad, and were masters at communication and empathy.
Every human has this psychological/emotional dichotomy of masculine and feminine "energies", the world is not black and white, and if you are not in touch with both aspects and how they are balanced within you, then you are still only half an adult.
Suppression of emotions does not work forever, not without severe negative consequences on you and the ones close to you.
Go build something, create value to others, give from what you are given, MAKE the world a better place and when you get knocked down on your arse so hard that you don't see the way back up, find someone to talk to, preferably a friend or family member, but if they aren't available... maybe a priest/religious leader, failing that... a therapist might work for you? But do be careful... there are wolves in the forest (i.e. therapists just looking for a pay cheque)
HODL
If you’re a man who’s struggling with low self esteem let me tell you going to therapy isn’t going to help.
The only way to fix it is to do things worthy of esteem.
We aren’t women.
Talking about our problems isn’t the solution.
Go do things in the world.
You will feel better about yourself.
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This is good advice, but I'd just like to point out that, emprically, high Testosterone is strongly and positively associated with communication skills, compassion and normal emotional expression.
That's not something pop psych articles in mainstream media will tell you.
(MSM journalists are as proudly ignorant of endocrinology and neuroscience as they are of economics and physics. )
Well said. We are not the women and we shouldn't be one. While we need to be able live with one being a man 👌
For that we need to cultivate intuition, show empathy, talk about feelings, basically learn from women what they have 😁
Amen! Always seek to raise you concious awareness 💪🏼
Thank you very much for this input! You're absolutely correct on all accounts here 😅
Agree that men should talk their shit out more, but this does not require therapy. Just real meaningful friendships.
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Agreed, as I said: friends/family>religious leader>therapist in that order. However, it also depends on the darkness of the thing you need to hash out. If it's super dark or vulnerable, there might be the need to skip friends and family in order to not overburden those close to you, that being said... if they can't handle you at 100% then it's probably time for better friends 😅 it's very situational though... I just don't tend to deal in absolutes and I think people should carve their own paths. We should all be very careful when advising others what to do in their life. Nuance is the hill I choose to die on.
For example: Sometime you might find yourself in a weird, dark and lonely position (due to a nomadic lifestyle perhaps) then a therapist might be the only option... 🤷🏻♂️ I know an incredibly bright, gifted and productive person who evaded suicide because this option was available. It's non-trivial, so be careful with the advice you give around mental health. By all means encourage something, but do not dissuade something proven to work.
