Day 14 sober. First real test tonight. First client Christmas dinner. Everyone else will be drinking. I will not.
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proud of you buddy!
cheers
This is the way.
Stay strong 💪
Honesty is the best way towards life. However you have every right to just make up a little lie, if someone notices you not drinking.
"Ywah driving tonight and on antibiotics "
It's your life,not theirs.
Lots of love
Congrats! 💪 It’s really inspiring that you’re sticking to your decision. You’ll make it through tonight, just be yourself!
You got this.
Allow yourself to relax. Hold a soft drink and chat. It’s easier than you think. I know how you feel 🤙
You can do this
Does sober mean you can't drink in moderation?
Stay hard 💪 first year is hard. 4 years sober, best decision of my life!
I remember that stage — it’s not easy, but every ‘no’ adds up to a version of you you’ll be grateful for.
Stay strong fren!! You got this!!
Thank you.
I will pray for you cozie
You can do it cozie! Just get through today
If anyone’s going to run a sober nest or corny chat room for those who need grounding and may be in the throws of desires that they don’t desire , I’d volunteer to attend for a few hours . I’m good and making laughs and respect anyone trying to unsubmit from destructive patterns their unfiltered desires have led to, it’s part of this life’s struggle for sure and the value of helping each other is underrated . No man is an island. May the lord bless you , your families and loved ones with grace and mercy in abundance. , #sobeit.
I know exactly what you mean, especially business dinners ate hard. I responded to silly comments and questions like "oh, you are not drinking?" with a true, but sad response: I lost my mum far to early due to alcoholism, liver cancer.
And there was silence.
R.I.P. mum.
Mine went that route too, not liver cancer, alcoholism. She started well before I was born & then recovered when I was a teenager. We never recovered though, it was like not having a mom. There was a person there the whole time, but it was a shell. Hopefully you had a decent relationship with yours & miss her terribly still. Then although it was too short & you were robbed you still have memories that can sustain you.
I when through a tuff time, ups and downs. Made be grow adult very early. The sad thing is that you can't help. It has to come from the inside.
FWIW, I did 6 months as a test and it got easier and easier everyday. One foot in front of the other and you’re all good 🫡
The harder it is, the stronger you demonstrably are. use that as motivation.
Good luck ✊🏼
Tough test. After a while i would order sparkling water w ice and lemon, works for me when weakness sets in.
Done and dusted. Only water! Boom!
2 years sober here. Keep it up!
3 years and 1 month sober so far, the worst is the first 6 months. First challenge is around 20 days or so. After 6 months you will find that for the first time in a long time, you feel happy not because of alcohol. You finally don't have the "need" to drink.
Good for you! I wish you the best in conquering! Let us know how it goes!