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Yes and no. The issue with this video is that the dude is making a blanket statement. For some people, yes, what the dude is saying is absolutely true. The fact that what the dude is saying is true for some people, however, does not necessarily mean that it is true for all people. To make that suggestion is to be guilty of committing the "part-to-whole logical fallacy" aka "the fallacy of composition and division". Just because the tires are made of rubber doesn't mean the whole car is made of rubber. This guy is a psychology major. That doesn't indicate that his awareness of logical fallacies is anywhere near robust. Why would governments or religions teach logical fallacies to the next generation? It is not in hegemons interests to give their subjects the tools necessary to throw off the yoke of that hegemonic relationship.

Then explain me how on earth you can love someone, if Immediatly after a break up, you go into another connection? A break up between 2 people that are in love, brings heartbreak, you don't just switch. If being in love, means making another part of self, and making sure they are ok and safe, how can you deliver that pain?

Love isn't attachment & attachment isn't love. Many use the word Love without having ever felt Unconditional Love. Love isn't found in a psychology textbook or a dating app. One can Love another while walking away from a toxic relationship with them. A lack of attachment doesn't prove a lack of Love.

Understood. But walking away from a Toxic connection you don't go soon after into another. Trauma bond is not that easily dismantled. We need a pause to heal. The new person does not have to deal with unhraled uncouscious traits that come after the abuse.

Yeah I don't think we share the same definition of love. The exclusive love that you're talking about feels more like attachment. When you're no longer attached to someone, when you no longer need them to fill a void within, it is easy to let them go. In most cases people jump from 1 attachment to the next. The other person doesn't complete them as much as they initially thought & so they hop to the next person seeking fulfillment. True love can only be experienced when you yourself feel whole. When you don't need the other person to feel complete. One of the hardest things was letting go my dream of achieving enlightenment once I became a father. I knew that I will always have attachment to them. I accepted it & loved them fully & unconditionally as best I could. I want them to experience the fullness of whatever purpose it is that they came here to fulfill. I know that they occasionally need to experience the pain & discomfort of their own decisions & actions. That ultimately their comfort is neither my concern or responsibilty. I'm only just now starting to feel my attachment to them dissolving. The love is still there but my need for them to be a certain way is softening. I'm only now learning to love myself unconditionally.

Maybe we do. I would love to grow with one person, not many, in a romantic sence. I know that many don't agree with this my own view. I don't see it as attachment cause I can love deeply while letting go. I don't want to possess nor out it into a box, but I want to be simply free yet recíprocal.