Yeah I don't think we share the same definition of love. The exclusive love that you're talking about feels more like attachment.
When you're no longer attached to someone, when you no longer need them to fill a void within, it is easy to let them go.
In most cases people jump from 1 attachment to the next. The other person doesn't complete them as much as they initially thought & so they hop to the next person seeking fulfillment.
True love can only be experienced when you yourself feel whole. When you don't need the other person to feel complete.
One of the hardest things was letting go my dream of achieving enlightenment once I became a father. I knew that I will always have attachment to them. I accepted it & loved them fully & unconditionally as best I could. I want them to experience the fullness of whatever purpose it is that they came here to fulfill. I know that they occasionally need to experience the pain & discomfort of their own decisions & actions. That ultimately their comfort is neither my concern or responsibilty.
I'm only just now starting to feel my attachment to them dissolving. The love is still there but my need for them to be a certain way is softening. I'm only now learning to love myself unconditionally.
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Maybe we do. I would love to grow with one person, not many, in a romantic sence. I know that many don't agree with this my own view. I don't see it as attachment cause I can love deeply while letting go.
I don't want to possess nor out it into a box, but I want to be simply free yet recíprocal.
This: True love can only be experienced when you yourself feel whole. When you don't need the other person to feel complete.
And from my experiences even if you do love another person fully it doesn’t guarantee the relationship will last.
I am flawed. Yet perfect. Humans 😂 Some are good with others and some aren’t. Accepted this & learned to be rather specific when going into a relationship.
Everything is a lesson. For me.
I have been alone all my life. And I am ok with it. Everything in my house, from floor, to smells to painting, even ekectricity, I dudcit, akone. My father call me a little "master" lol (asking, "how could you do it ?!) As a human, I would love to experience a romantic recíprocal love, something I have never experienced. It's natural for me to want to experience it. I have love and experience love in many forms, and grateful I am. Except in a romantic sence.
You're never truly alone ever but I understand what you mean.
I've experienced the opposite. I met a girl at 17, left home & I've lived with her ever since.
The grass often appears greener on the other side. 🫂
I love the one , "the grass is greener where you water it" 🫂💜
