95-5 ratio of men to women on here from opposite sides of the world ah yes, let's build a dating app

I mean, to be fair, that's the population of most dating apps I feel is it's got to be mostly dudes in a small percentage of women.

i know many lovely ladies here on the nostr that aren't married.

Is Datestr a thing yet?

missing the point there are literally max 500 ppl active on nostr

Tanel, always the optimist 👍

i am eastern european this is me being optimistic

All I hear is, while the chance may be small, it's not zero.

might as well include a gambling section in the client also, atleast there they can potentially win

I know two, who's the third? 😂

XD exactly 3 women is not far off and yes, fair, most online interaction is probably just dudes (facebook grannies excluded)

Like the tag?

Happily?

well said chip. lmao

I'd say we number in the 10s.

Lottery bot is on my near-term to-do list

Not married and here 😂

Don't push it, Kumar.

It’s fine, just pull a DiVine and hide the n-word, people shall come.

I don't see anything weird about having a nostr-based dating app, if it's done with care. Every dating approach has its pros and cons. Dating apps won't go away; online dating is the only available thing to people with certain disabilities, for example. View quoted note →

If we're being serious, my arguments are, look at the crowd. A bunch of at minimum privacy aware fringe (relative to big tech platforms). We consist of less than 10 women, most of which are married and a bunch of dudes probably in their mid to late 30s. If you have used any of the "fringe" but popular dating apps/websites you find one "woman" within 100 miles of you, if you move the range to include Washington DC and northern Virginia you get a few more "women". You have to build real trust, which means you must expose private information over an online system. I know I have a bias against dating apps (because they simply don't work for the majority of users) and people can't keep pointing to the 1/100 users that entered their first marriage at 23 that no one was invited to and are too socially awkward to leave their house.

Are you really not married?? 👀 Listen! I promise you golden mountains, milky ways, and so on, if you only please agree to go out with me! 😆 😜 Anyway, let cute unicorns be with you 🦄

> You have to build real trust, which means you must expose private information over an online system I've pointed out something close in the article I mentioned: IMO it's possible to achieve a healthy and flexible enough privacy for dating (so people could feel safe to talk to strangers using pseudoanonymous and almost empty npubs, and still not appear as a total stranger/s{p,c}ammer to the system, by exposing the connection between the real trusted npub and the limiting dating one to a trust rank service, that real npub holder chooses themselves). That's the inevitable trade-off: something would need to be exposed in order for such a system to work, but privacy depends a lot on what exactly and who will receive the information. I think it's worth trying to build dating capabilities in Nostr, because the alternative is actually dating apps that do (or will start doing at any moment) the ID-based KYC cringe, which makes things worse for whoever doesn't care that much about privacy. I believe that people will go here if they notice a healthier alternative and if we market it in a particular way. > We consist of less than 10 women While I don't ask for statistics that support this, hopefully non-literal, claim (I see who's naturally attracted here at the moment too), I still don't want it to be some self-fulfilling prophecy. Nostr is not just for male hackers and bitcoiners, and we affect who actually gets attracted to it. For example by making @Divine HQ (I'm still impressed it hit the 10k TestFlight limit in a few hours!) or possibly some dating app too. > If you have used any of the "fringe" but popular dating apps/websites you find one "woman" within 100 miles of you > they simply don't work for the majority of users I hear it all the time, ah. I haven't been doing this since all the AI psychosis started in particular, but anyway, for some reason I was always lucky with these dating services. I found my significant other about 5 years ago using one of them, just as one of the examples. And I'm in my mid 30s right now. But that was not in the US.

When Nostr only fans ? Not my kind of thing but imagine how much better it would be for those women if they were using nostr instead and got to keep all the money from their naked sex videos instead of the site taking most of the money. And all those chronic mastubaters giving away their money to Israel could be sending zaps to the actual performers themselves. Dating sites using, eh, I think people finding each other on nostr is no different to finding each other on Facebook, or some forum before that. While dating apps are literally just the bottom of the barrel and a toxic way to start a relationship, you're more likely to find your husband or wife on regular social media just by chance, based on some shared interests and end up talking for hours every day etc.

whorstr

You'd be surprised how many desperate women are out there. If you change the range to over 40 on those apps it's probably more like 50/50 Like just lonely people, lots of emotional baggage and trauma and every relationship they've had before was distinctional. Really best to avoid dating apps unless you're interested in either casual sex with strangers who've fucked 20 other guys that night or caring for old ladies who just want someone to talk to

Disfunctional*

Not married... Still single on Nostr.

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