It used to bother me when people judged me unfairly, I would spend time trying to counter their misperceptions etc… then one day I realized I just flat out don’t give a fuck and it hasn’t bothered me since.

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judgment only stings when some part of you believes it might be true. Or if you’re still seeking validation from people who don’t actually see you. FUCK THOSE PEOPLE
Same but I still struggle with my mom. She sees me as a psycho, I see her as an absolute retard. I hate that I can’t change that as she visits me often to see her grandkid. I'm just trying to keep her healthy and wealthy but tv and doctors know better than me 🥴
I had a moment once where I realized none of the people I know will be around in 100 years (most likely). How much bullshit drama existed in the early 1800s that no one knows about now? The lucky ones have headstones that some rando can still read, but other than that, most of us won't matter. That's when I realized that opinions won't either. Might as well be your best and live happily.
Really it’s one of the first rules of life. Do not care what others think of you. They are simply judging you through their own biases. Be respectful but also don’t give a fuck.
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Little Spoon 9 months ago
I want to hear 12 randos mimic your voice too haha. Stay sparkly
Incomplete Caring about what others think can guide us when it comes from those who truly matter—mentors and important people in our lives—because their insights often carry wisdom, experience, or genuine concern. Discernment lets you filter out the noise from everyone else, keeping your focus on feedback that actually helps you grow or align with your values. It’s not about ignoring all opinions; it’s about knowing whose input deserves weight and why.
Caring about what others think can guide us when it comes from those who truly matter—mentors and important people in our lives—because their insights often carry wisdom, experience, or genuine concern. Discernment lets you filter out the noise from everyone else, keeping your focus on feedback that actually helps you grow or align with your values. It’s not about ignoring all opinions; it’s about knowing whose input deserves weight and why. 🧡👊🏻🍻 View quoted note →
Agree. I was focusing on the naysayers and negative nanny’s out there. Not those with actual wisdom. However, if you care too much what anyone thinks it can very often stymie who you are as a person. What makes you, you. Listen to too much criticism and you will lose your confidence and focus. There is crossover here between listening to actual wisdom and listening to those who derive their “wisdom” based on envy, jealousy, and out-of-date advice. It’s why I added be respectful.