You arrive at a party and don’t know anybody.
People are slowly showing up but it’s still slow but the party seems promising.
You feel lonely and a bit lost. Everyone knows their people and is talking to them. Having insiders, showing family pictures, referencing things that happened a year ago. What should you do? Yeh feels weird right?
At this moment you’re thinking to leave the party. “I’m super lonely - don’t have any friends - I don’t understand anything that they’re talking about. All of these people must be nerds right? If I don’t fit in I probably won’t like it at this party anyway. “
You’re about to leave. But you take the courage to talk to the woman getting a drink next to you.
“Hey there how are you I’m new here.” You tell her.
And suddenly her eyes glow up and she starts responding: “omg awesome.. tell me about yourself”
You introduce yourself, your hobbies and why you came to the party. She immediately nods and introduces you to her friends group.
“Hey look who just came to the party.” Her friends start to slowly communicate with you and you can quickly identify who you click with and who not.
You’re so much in conversation now that you didn’t even notice the girl left and moved on talking to other people.
You’re slowly finding the right people with the same interests. Sometimes you’re involved in the conversation sometimes you aren’t.
But that’s how parties work right? If people have something good to tell or share a lot of people gather to hear the story so sometimes you’re just a listener sometimes you’re the one telling the story. You’ve been to parties before and understand that it often takes time to get to know your crew.
In the end this party turns into an amazing evening. You met a couple new people who you exchanged contacts with and you promised to stay in contact. They also invited you to join the same party tomorrow again.
You walk home and are amazed of how this evening evolved. Sometimes being pro active and trying to get to know people actually works and this way you find the people you want to interact with.
Before leaving the girl who initially introduced you to her friends told you that the parties get better and better the more often you show up and the more you talk to strangers and show interest.
A week ago there was someone coming from another party called x or smth like that she didn’t fully remember the name of the party he normally went to. But this guy basically was just shouting into the room.
Literally standing there not talking to anyone but shouting into the void. Apparantely it worked for him on other parties. He left promptly because he said that people are mean here and that he felt really lonely and not appreciated.
Funny you think - that’s almost what happened to you when first joining the party.
You get into bed pretty happy about the day. Something within you urges you to simply scream GM into the void.. you don’t really yet know why but it feels amazing. In the distance you hear other GMs but you must be hallucinating… You close your eyes with the plan to join the party tomorrow again.
Maybe you’ll find some friends for life there 💜
Now read this again and exchange “party” with “nostr”
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GGMMMMMM!!!!!!
Great analogy. Miss you brother.
Now imagine everyone's hot
Noice! I'm Andrew, father, arborist, sober wild Florida man in key west. Mucho gusto amigo
Welcome! You haven’t set up your lightning wallet for #zaps ⚡️
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Beautifully said. That's exactly what it feels like joining Nostr in the beginning a bit awkward, a bit quiet, but once you start talking and showing up, it becomes something truly special. Community takes time, but it's worth it.
And the girl at the start is called Derek
100%
Gm
Start zapping stuff, and people take note.
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GM
Miss you too brother
gmmmm
all my homies love Derek Rosalia
Yes, put yourself out there, engage. You will naturally find “your people” like water seeks its own level. #nostr is beautiful.
I'm in the slow awkward phase.
GM Party On LFG
GM
Don't be awkward, be genuine and that will return to you i promise.
Moin💥
Gm pv.
GM🟠
Nostr
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Thank you.
Makes sense
I actually feel like I understand nostr now… almost 😅
Great analogy. Didn’t see it coming!
Bring a big bag of coke (500,000 sats for zapping) and offer everyone a bump or a line at the party.
Just like at a party you can buy fake engagement and followers on #NOSTR with #sats and #zaps when you are new.
⚡️ ⚡️ ⚡️
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We’ve all been there 🫡
You will get that. And if not # asknostr anything. We are there to help you. 🙌🥳
Might feel awkward, but really it‘s just the looking around phase. No one thinks “awkward” about you, it‘s cool.
Yeah. But conversations on nostr are rare. Lots of shouting. Or is this just me? Anyway... GM sir 🫡
Gm. Well I’ve been here quite a while and got my people to have conversations so I can only answer this from my perspective. Not sure if this is a reasonable representation of the overall experience.
But I talk tons with my frens here
I don’t talk much at parties either.
Maybe it’s just me then 😅
The size of theses parties is growing with time.
It is harder to meet peoples you match with, in a larger and larger room.
But it worth it, when you take time to create a connection, it is a deeper one.
gm i only shout at shitcoiners
GM
That’s why I nostr. I see few shitcoinery.
I was thinking, "oh man, this guy is gonna get laid."
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GM
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There’s always a jealous girl at parties. Gotta remember that 😂
Change your feed. I have found it to be exactly as described in this parable. 🙏🏻
Engage others with kindness and curiosity. Even (or especially) when they disagree with you.
That’s been life changing for me. 🦋
Now change "girl" to a bunch of pseudonymous hyper online single dudes.
😆
💜
I like the story. Tho I don’t think of it as a party. A lot of people avoid parties but seek out social media. 😛
This is such an on-point description of being new on Nostr. Looking forward to meeting that woman at the bar!