oh absolutely but i do think the power you can have both because we need to have all kinds of content in order to both consume and participate

I think OP must be incredibly lucky. Every person I've turned onto nostr leaves for both aspects. First, there is very limited content and hasn't grown much since I originally joined. Second, the get zero returned interaction on content they create or interact with. I don't blame them because I experience the same thing but I'm a glutton for punishment.