God bless you, sir

Completely and totally rational

Good

“Whenever you are able to observe your mind, you are no longer trapped in it” Eckhart Tolle Mindfulness 🫂💜

I see what you mean, but you're missing something. You do know something about her, actually. You know quite a bit, not because you can glean directly from the traits she has who she is, but because she signals those traits in a conforming way. You might not know how her childhood was, how many siblings she has, but you know probably about 80% of her life philosophy just because she packaged herself in such a way as to inform you. Of course, you don't want to think that way. You want to maintain your purity of mind, your deeper sense of humanity and meaning, but what's happening here is not you falling into a team game. It's you heeding a warning, it's a defense mechanism, you see a beast in the wild with big teeth and you avoid it, you learn that this frog or that mushroom looks like this and that means it's poisonous.

That reaction was based on a lifetime of observation, not some recent social media interaction. It is your normal fight or flight keeping you out of trouble. You can overrule that instinct , engage, and find out she is sweet, but you’ll probably find out your gut was right.

you arent me. you dont know what it was based on. youre projecting youre defense of your comfortable relationship with prejudice onto me.

Sorry, meant to encourage you and failed.

Nah, he's just trying to let you know that its okay to feel hate, fear and anger. When you try to deny them, end up dying your hair blue.

I'm suggesting that is your way of thinking, yes.

Well, maybe, but if that's true I haven't come to that realization yet. I'm not going to judge the person, just whether I'd like to associate with them or not. Like you said, you don't know them. But I will do a risk benefit analysis and decide if I want the trouble in my life, particularly if the traits I'm using to deduce is entirely deliberately self imposed. If I tattoo a swastika on my forehead, I'm trying to tell the world something about myself. A guy that doesnt go for that type of thing would be ill advised to ignore it and treat me like he knows absolutely nothing about me.

Unfortunately, your primal brain will keep doing this inevitably to a certain degree. It needs to decide within the first second or two if something or someone is a real danger to you or not. And, for good measure and evolutionary success, it'll also establish if you can eat it or mate with it.