You are part of the problem, not part of the solution, but nature apparently has a solution for your problem, so you do you.

David gornoski has floated the idea that marriage contracts could be drafted and enforced by the church. I can't remember all the pros and cons, but made me question the assumption--- why in modern society does the state define (redefine) what marriage is and not the church?

No marriage is a contract so people do no fuck up children life when they keep playing irresponsible teenagers. Two people that want to stay together are not required to marry at all.

Agreed.

There's no problem here. You don't have to be married to be with someone. And marriage isn't some natural order either. It's human contracts and structures.

Marriage is older than govt. Tens of thousands of years older, most likely. Possibly hundreds of thousands. So do your own ceremony - and don't tell the regime :D