Oh you have it there now! You're set. I would still recommend dropping a couple more of the read relays. You will have a smoother experience. As far as using many clients, some do things different or better than others. Some do completely different things all together. fevela.me is nice for browsing a single relay's contents, as if it is it's own mini social media feed. Yakihonne does that well, too. If you're uncomfortable hopping around between clients, I'd stick with the one you like until you get a bearing on the way data moves around. You don't need to change your relays every time you visit a new client. Those settings follow your profile.

I've been ditching a almost all relays as jumble and favela were complaining about it. So that should improve. But does yakihonne not show this conversation because of spatia's filtering? This makes no sense to me. PS. Spatia-arcana is a read/write node. There is also an inbox node should I add that one too?

I do not have the dm inbox turned on. You can remove it from there. And no, I'm not sure why this conversation isn't showing up in yakihonne. I don't see it either, though it exists on many relays. I'll try broadcasting one of these replies. If that doesn't work, we can ask someone from their team.