it is a psyop and believing it introduces noise into human connection and dampens your capacity to love.

i can't speak to your experience, but i can speak to my own, as it's not happened to me. so purrhaps the "well understood phenomena" is also a delusion... :P

what does any of that have to do with treating a woman well? the point is that treating her well will not cause her to lose respect for you as a man.

that's just insecurity speaking. made clear by the word ***if*** belief in this psuedoscience and applying to it individual relationships is damaging. it's limiting growth and connection. the exact same "there are so many other options" applies to men. maybe more so because porn. so it's not so much of a female/male thing as it is a human thing.

It's not pseudoscience. Geez. I like playing around with wacky ideas, but this is a very well understood and studied phenomena at this point. Why is it insecurity to try to understand relational mechanisms. No. It does not apply to most men. You clearly aren't in the group of men that are invisible to women. Good for you. And sure, I'm insecure about a LOT of things and that's my problem, but... I don't think I'm actually wrong about this.

"Good guys finish last"

Not always, but way too often.

maybe i'm trying to illuminate how to not be "invisible" it's not insecure to want to understand relational mechanics, it's insecure to assume your kindness will be taken advantage of. which is what these beliefs perpetuate. and that's the kind of thing a woman *will* lose respect for. if i lived my life according to that stuff then i wouldn't be able to love and be loved as i do now. because by all metrics i should be "invisible"

apparently not ;3

💝 I appreciate you. Thanks for spreading the good word

ty~! trying my best <3

I believe it's due to a common false dichotomy. There are plenty of observations around where women respect a man that treats her below par, and it's convenient to jump to the conclusion that it means treating Her well leads to a loss of respect. After all, our minds are being more and more shaped to think in binary opposites, and it takes self-awareness and energy to even spot that. We (at least I think so) have it easier seeing it because we are making conscious thoughts about those sorts of things. (Also, the psyop cuts from the other side too - "if a man treats you well, you are too good for him" kind of thinking.)

idk i think much of that stems from emotional immaturity (which is basically what you said in a way) a lot of what we see are wounded people trying to figure things out. and that "psyop" gives cover for people to hurt instead of heal (from both sides)