It's not pseudoscience. Geez. I like playing around with wacky ideas, but this is a very well understood and studied phenomena at this point. Why is it insecurity to try to understand relational mechanisms. No. It does not apply to most men. You clearly aren't in the group of men that are invisible to women. Good for you. And sure, I'm insecure about a LOT of things and that's my problem, but... I don't think I'm actually wrong about this.