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Well to be fair - when I met my wife I had absolutely zero idea I was not able to have kids.. if I knew my condition I would definitely not of been in a relationship with someone who told me from day one that she wants to be a mom.. so fast forwarding and having a good relationship it’s very difficult…

Hard to give advice without knowing more about you or your wife or your broader circumstances. Some general advice: You are where you are and you have to face reality as it is. So talk to your wife. Let her know how you are struggling with it. Not as a means of guilting her or casting blame. Rather as a means of working through it together. You're a team and though thid is a sensitive situation all around you should be able to talk and work through it. Can't harbor resentment or even self pity. That is poison to your marriage. Do what you can on the nutritional and physiological side in search for solutions to whatever is keeping you from having kids. You may be able to address the issue(s) in order to have your own children in the future. Talk to a pastor or counselor about the situation and about how you can learn to love your child as your own. You can also try to find other men who have had similar experiences and ask for insight. It isn't entirely different from adoption and people develop deep love for their adopted children. Will pray to the Lord today for you, your wife, and the little one she carries.