## Evaluating Your Desires
In our experiences, often we find ourselves desiring for something before we can articulate why we crave it. This is a significant reality to recognize: our desires, in their initial stages, are fundamentally mystifying to us. As such, it is of paramount importance to not place undue trust in our immediate justifications for our wants.
This enigmatic interim, the span between the birth of a desire and the formation of an explanation for it, is the fertile ground where rationalization plants its seeds. As humans, we are inherently prone to self-deception. Invariably, we gravitate towards attributing our desires to the most noble reasons we can conceive, rather than confronting the more authentic, and often less flattering, root causes.
Unfortunately, this tendency paints an inaccurately virtuous picture of our motivations, leading us astray. Ignoring our true desires for the sake of preserving self-image may result in decisions that ultimately do not satisfy us or align with our real values and goals. Thus, it is crucial to question and evaluate our desires honestly, rather than accepting them at face value. Recognize that our first explanation for a desire may not be the most truthful one. Cultivate introspection and seek self-awareness to better understand what truly drives your wants and needs lest you become a narcissistic prick.
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Essentially:
- kill your ego
- know thyself
- then you'll grow?
Hard part:
- knowing which decisions do not satisfy us and do not align with our real values and goals... as you need to know yourself first.
Answer:
- grow 1% every day/week/month/whatever towards knowing (wisdom) and be okay with making mistakes as you grow
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Insightful and well-written. Good job Jimmy of putting this together.
OUR SELF-DECEIVING DESIRES
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Becoming aware of self-deceiving desires is perhaps a part of the process of becoming self-aware, ie, knowing oneself.
I highly your thought-provoking content.
What I heard:
1. We need to examine our motives, especially in the initial mystifying phase.
2. We are prone toward self-deception.
3. Our initial justification and explanation of a desire may self-deceiving.
My observation: Introspection can be a great place to start. If it leads me to the truth that the creature is part of creation and cannot lift itself out of its self-deception.
However, it often keeps the gaze of oneself bent towards itself. This ends up leading to practicing the βpresence of self.β
It is only in looking up, that I find deliverance from self-deception. In losing my life in Yeshua, I find the only life worth living, the Life.
This is just my experience.
A step further would be to take action on what you've become aware of. Meaning, people can be aware of a problem they have but never take steps to overcome it.
In sales training I teach that it's not the customer's stated need that is as important as the need behind that need.
What is driving that need?
Why is it so important for you to have a Lamborghini?
We want things not for the things, but for how we think those things will make us feel.
Ask yourself why is it so important to you?