Good reflection this morning…
Some days I wonder how our grandmas did it… because I swear I’m running all day and still feel behind.
Here’s the real reason we “don’t have time”… and it’s not because we’re worse than our grandmas:
1. We’re glued to phones they never had. We don’t have our attention split into a thousand pieces all day long. They weren’t fighting with a device that steals hours without our noticing.
2. We’re overstimulated from the minute we wake up. Noise, messages, opinions, reminders; our nervous systems literally don’t get a break.
3. We’re raising kids without the community they had. Neighbors, sisters, aunties, women constantly around. We’re doing motherhood basically alone.
4. We compare ourselves to hundreds of moms daily. They’re comparing themselves to… maybe their cousin’s highlight reel? We’re drowning in everyone’s.
5. Their days had actual slowness. Ours don’t. We fill every quiet moment with scrolling or “catching up.” They sat, rested, breathed.
6. God was the center of their homes. Now we’re mothering in a culture that treats faith like an optional add-on. That shift alone changes everything about our peace, strength, and rhythm. Grandmas did.
7. We’re carrying mental loads they never had to think about. Endless research, milestones, safety worries, constant information, schedules—all of it living inside our heads. It’s not that our grandmas were better at it. It’s that their world wasn’t pulling them in a million directions.
And going into the new year? I’m choosing rhythms, systems, and habits that help my home feel peaceful again… not saying perfect at all, but more intentional.
What’s one thing you’re bringing back into your home this season?
If you’re trying to slow down, simplify, and build a God-centered home… you’re not alone.
#GM
[Original Post by Melanie Alexandra on TikTok, Modern Motherhood vs. Grandmas)]
