Dang it, looks like my post got stuck in "drafts". Oh well, now I'm necro-posting for posterity. Don't feel the need to reply, if I was still invested then I would have re-written this.
Judging is awesome. The only way we are able to make decisions at all is by judging the actions we have available to us. And the only way we can learn from past mistakes is by judging past actions. Judinging other people's actions specifically is called learning things the easy way. The hard way is having to learn from one's own past.
Humans are incredibly adapted social creatures, to the point where even when we absolutely hate someone's guts, we will STILL subconaciously base our responses on the premise of having some kind of practical dialogue with them. If someone is punched, why do you think they feel a strong urge to punch them back? Sure they are upset, but far more than that they are confused. Why did they get punched? What did they do wrong? What was the other person trying to accomplish? Did the other person make a mistake?
They feel the urge to punch the other person back in order to hopefully find out the answer to those questions. They are "teaching the other person a lesson", but they are just as much trying to learn a lesson themselves. After all if they had considered getting punched as a serious possibility then they wouldn't be angry; they would just be disappointed.
To be clear: dispensing some kind of ironic retribution is not even close to an ideal response to being wronged. Even afterward it's very easy for both sides to come out learning nothing useful. Ideally the victim isn't ignorant and confused in the first place, but even then there are often other ways to engage with the other person's behavior and figure out how things are.
In your case, the people around you might be subjected to a crying child, and so they feel compelled to It sounds like the reason you dislike being judged isn't because judging is wrong, but because you are simply insecure and you don't want to have to engage with this kind of public dialogue, no matter how relevant it is to your life.
