Like the people who are always there for everyone else and never seem to need help. They aren't immune to struggles, they are just eating it. All their problems and all the problems of people who call on them for support.
I got sick and cut out a lot of people who were one way because I was busy with myself. Not many people left. I won't be calling those same people back, rather make new friends with that lessons learned.
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It sounds similar to myself... I've let most people go. I'd like to become the kind of person who keeps them despite everything, but it's hard. Its also really hard to recognize that what people need is empathy, but being empathetic would require changing their expectations of you. Its easier to play the part they expect, and they probably do that too, and the result is we all suffer silently and pretend we don't see it.
The real problem people disappeared on their own when it became clear I didn't have spare resources for them any more. I didn't have to actively do anything, which is nice because I couldn't.