This is why this needs to be explained more, because this is a massive turn off when trying to use Nostr! I'm gonna say this for the last time. Make this easier.

The relay is not in your list, so the app won't connect to it. We are making a new permission screen to allow you to connect by clicking a button, but it's not ready yet. :( But yes, attackers can use relay hits to monitor the IPs of victims they want to track. If they know IP, they can get a rough location. If they can track over time, rough locations become more precise identifiers. It would be an elaborate social attack, but it is possible.

know your relay operators just as you get to know your devs.

Huh, so even if I follow the account, amethyst will not connect to that accounts outboxes? How will it find anything in that case unless your relays match their outboxes? Or you're just saying, outbox is not fully operational till you have the extra settings?

How about the note to be rendered show the relay name below an "Allow" and a "Whitelist" button. I guess generally this is a similar problem as emails and images. Many email clients just load you YOLO all images received, which is a stupid behavior.