I thought I might sit down and write out a few paragraphs about this. What do you think, any input?
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Is it possible to choose not to judge yourself when you’re wallowing in self-pity or self-deprecation mode and you’re putting yourself down and beating yourself up? It would seem difficult at that time to stop doing that, but looking back at myself as a person who wants to do that these days, if I’ve done something wrong in the past and my subconscious bubbles it up into consciousness, I acknowledge it. I consider it and then I tell myself, while I might have been an asshole or an idiot back then, I’m not being that person anymore, so I don’t need to torture myself for my past mistakes anymore.
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we all do stupid things, it’s part of the process of not doing stupid things
For sure! You can also look back and realize that you did what you could with the resources you had at the time, whether that is personal character, community, or material resources.
That’s a wonderful point thank you for bringing it up :)
Beyond not torturing myself and building on Raven's point, I try to forgive myself for whatever it was. I will even say it out loud and visualize present-day me comforting past me.