i get that. Also sorry to hear about you father. I lost.mine last year through horrible illnesses as well. I am still completely shaken and have been puting my life in order ever since. You were smart at acting and that's great, but I doubt you went about it through making declarations. You probably learned how to avoid some stuff and not go into process blindly. At least thats my guess. And also my point about actual practical results. You probably didnt blindly signs stuff just because you were told this isbhow it's usually done, they instead made some kind of future abstract declarations about what they wanna do in the presence of 3rd party - the state. The more I think about it thr more it looks to me like making some kind of parental agreement at the notary office and nothing else, except big words make us feel like its something original or big or a real system hack. Instead you were the real system hacker and they were but vloggers dressed in fake importance. I wouldn't be so bothered about it if I didn't see this as a trend of how we learned to 'do' things in the last decade or so. everywhere i look i see similar empty results dressed in big words, dressed as 'help' or altruism and 'true caring' of some kind. Yet as soon as i start thinking what actually happened i get disappointed almost every single time. Its like we've become a culture of LARPers who pretend to be special yet in reality we've just doing rhings of no real value. Compare that to what you've done: you actually went about it and solved the problem best you could - directly. Your actions mattered for real! Maybe it should be you who should make a video and teach people of what youve done based on real results you had. Dammit... now I'm just pissed youre not famous for it :)