Lower your expectations. Seriously. I know the whole world says the opposite - well, my specialty is seeing where the world is wrong. You're expecting too much. In fact, it would be better to expect nothing. Why did you let your friend login with an email? That's not how nostr works. Tell us what that service was so we can harass the jackass that made it. Don't give up, but also try less. That's always my advice with people. People aren't boulders. With boulders, you have to push with a force greater than the boulder's own weight times the friction that's keeping it stuck. But people are basically inverse boulders. They won't budge, and they'll get more stuck the harder you try, but they'll respond when you stop pushing. You could say maybe the real antigravity is intelligence.