You’re right that happiness as a feeling comes and goes. But there’s something deeper…joy rooted in covenant faithfulness.
A covenant isn’t just a contract you can break when terms aren’t met. It’s a binding promise before God that says “I’m committed to you no matter what comes.”
The key isn’t waiting to “be happy yourself” first. It’s choosing daily to love sacrificially, forgive quickly, and serve your spouse even when you don’t feel like it. Ironically, that’s often when the deeper satisfaction comes, not from chasing feelings, but from keeping your word.
A happy marriage isn’t constant euphoria. It’s two people committed to dying to self, extending grace, and choosing each other again and again. The “happiness” that blesses kids comes from witnessing parents who respect each other, laugh together, resolve conflict well, and demonstrate covenant love through hard seasons.
It is hard work. But the couples who make it aren’t the ones who started out most compatible. They’re the ones who refused to give up and learned to love beyond feelings.
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