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Lady Crumb 3 weeks ago
Pro tips that nobody asked on how to give flowers to your girl without messing up (coming from a biased nostr girl who loves flowers): 1. Be sure she wants to receive them. For some reason (that I don’t understand yet, but have seen it in many friends) some girls get scared when they receive flowers “too early”. My hypothesis is that they interpret them as “I love you”. Just keep that in mind if you don’t mean that. 2. Don’t use them as an apology. You’ll turn flowers into a bittersweet sign. You want to make her happy every time she receives them, don’t transform them in the reminder of sad moments… cause she probably remembers the last time you gave flowers to her and you don’t want to remind her your last fight. 3. It has to be unexpected. Don’t make her expect flowers on her birthday. Then you’ll hate flowers cause they’ll feel an expensive obligation. Send them to her a random day, and not too frequently, scarcity makes them more special. If you want to send her on a special date it’s ok, but don’t be consistent, so that it is a surprise too. Disclaimer: do buy her a birthday present please, just not flowers every time. 4. Which flower doesn’t really matter, unless you know she hates some kinds, it is alergic to them or she is too picky. The size of the bouquet is not relevant either. The important thing is the message: he bought this beautiful, useless thing for me, which he doesn’t understand why I like them, but just because he wanted me to smile today. Any other doubts? Any complaints? Have you tried these things and think it’s actually bad advice? Would love to know other girls opinions too. #flowerstr #nobodyasked

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pepi 3 weeks ago
If you are thinking about buying her some flowers, read this first 👀. Very practical advice. Flowers can have a powerful effect 💐 when used wisely. View quoted note →
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Troy 3 weeks ago
If you ask her about if she likes flowers or not, then it's hardly unexpected. The alternative is to be sneaky about it, but that's not a great way to act for a relationship. Open communication is much better. My take on #1 is that if she's offended by someone being thoughtful, drop her.
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David II 3 weeks ago
There are no rules. Be natural, don’t think, act according to your heart. Fuck all else.
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Lady Crumb 3 weeks ago
Ah I get your point. I didn’t mean asking her directly if she likes flowers, I didn’t explain myself well 😅. If you ask her that, then you kill the surprise. I mean that if it is the first time you are going to give her flowers, try to be sure (or try to reduce the risk) that she wouldn’t be scared by interpreting it as an “I love you”. Just to save guys from the bad experience of kindly giving flowers and getting rejected because it felt like a too heavy of a message.
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David II 3 weeks ago
I over think all the time. It is usually what gets me in trouble 😂