I crossed this bridge myself and chose dad, that said I think you owe it to your family to do both. I once heard that kids really just need 15 mins of focused attention each day to feel truly loved and supported. I do more than that, but I always make sure to give them their 15 minutes minimum each day.

I’ve heard similar, the quality of the time is more important than the quantity. Before my boy was born I might not get home until after 8, rarely before 7. When he was born I made the decision to always be home for family dinner. And do you know what, my work didn’t suffer because I wasn’t putting in those extra hours. Knowing I had a hard out every day helped me focus on getting the most important tasks done and letting the busywork ride.