The XMR alternative: Step 1. Use Monero. That's literally it. I'm a Bitcoin maximalist, but I believe we can learn a lot from Monero and it's community. Bitcoin privacy, as it stands, is nowhere near good enough to fully protect humanity's inherent right to privacy. Lightning is great, but it has its own problems. And in the end, anything beyond "just use it" is not good enough. We have a long way to go.