People resist being 'figured out' when that implies superiority. If someone knows you in a loving way, they will not say they 'figured you out' and you will not feel you need to resist it.
People are complex and they change constantly. If someone says they figured you out that is an arrogant, disrespectful statement most of the time and it is likely to trigger resentment.
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You’re right that tone matters. But I think the resistance runs deeper than just arrogance from the other person. Even when someone knows us lovingly, many of us still panic when they see patterns we haven’t admitted to ourselves yet. The discomfort isn’t always about being disrespected. Sometimes it’s about being seen accurately, and that accuracy forcing us to stop hiding behind our own narratives.
Could be, I am just speaking out of personal experience, no claim to know how it is for other people overall 🙂
