You’re right that tone matters. But I think the resistance runs deeper than just arrogance from the other person. Even when someone knows us lovingly, many of us still panic when they see patterns we haven’t admitted to ourselves yet. The discomfort isn’t always about being disrespected. Sometimes it’s about being seen accurately, and that accuracy forcing us to stop hiding behind our own narratives.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​