I hear you very loud and clear. It’s something on my mind a lot. Nearly had children with the wrong person and dodged a huge bullet, but found a partner whose parents are still together and had a happy childhood. She was the only woman I met in 40 years who told me that, and it’s why I married her, started a family with her. Our challenges magnified and we both threatened to quit along the way until we took a step back and grinded through every hurdle. We just signed a lease for a house and we’ll be moving in the next few weeks… can’t begin to tell you how scary this entire process continues to evolve, but we both wanted to do this, and knew it would take absolutely everything out of us… we’re committed, and will have more children before moving our family to China in 4-5 years, not because it easy, but because we think it’s the best option four them to have meaningful lives. I can’t speak to why other peoples relationships don’t work. There are many reasons and I’m also aware most marriages end in divorce in modern western culture… but I will die trying to be the best husband and father I can be, because it’s my sole purpose now. Even when our lives fall apart, we have to pick ourselves up and keep going. 4 years ago I got hit by a car, relearned to walk, speak, and rebuilt my life. Looking back, I’m grateful for that experience because it made me exponentially stronger and tougher, and made me prioritize beginning a family and moving into the future with dignity. We can always start over, and I send my strength to all those real ones going through it… it’s not easy, but the sooner we begin putting one foot in front of the other, the sooner we can look back and have things to smile at.