I'm currently writing a chapter of a book on nostr about relay selection, which I hope will help define best practices. There are some scenarios currently that have no right answer. Fixing the problem requires starting at the NIP level and working our way up.

Outbox model :110percent: assumes users are total nerds

Would love to see this, I need it for Purplebase.

Here's a rough draft if you can't wait: https://github.com/coracle-social/how-to-nostr/blob/master/04-relays-are-repositories.md I intend to have some folks review it before I publish.