laughable: "His solution, developed through years of trial and painful error, was elegantly simple: stop arguing and start asking." like.. didnt need years of trial and error could just not be a dick and be genuinely curious actually curious because you care deeply and have a question and want to learn the answer

i promise the years came from: being a dick if you just loved someone and saw them as a equal wouldve stumbled into the invention of asking a question because you genuinely wanted to know

ok let's put this in the frame of: i am gonna explain this as i would to a space alien in way fewer words: hey alien, thank you for spending some time with me. sure, i will try my best to answer your query a son is the male offspring of a human mother a mother, in this case, gave birth to male offspring, her son if you are the son of a human mother, and your mother's behavior upsets you because she watches the news and you think the news is full of lies you can ask to have a conversation with her at the kitchen table (where human beings traditionally eat meals) this is a conversation between mother and son. they are in a relationship as mother and son. they both love and respect each other even tho on some things they disagree because of different perspectives and different lived experiences and different ages. a mom is older than a son. for this conversation to be actual, both must be vulnerable enough to be open to changing their perspectives. they are equally willing to see where they were shortsighted, impatient, flat out wrong, or were disregarding something the other person treasures deeply as a value.

that's all it takes if you approach a conversation willing to walk away from it watching the news with your mom from a different perspective of appreciation for her and the news, will she be far more likely to equally come into an understanding about what you see in the news and what stresses you out about it. maybe she still watches the news but it is a different channel you find better researched and less sensational. as in: conversations dont go well if you are the immovable impenetrable object trying to exploit the terrain of the other party that situation is a situation between enemies. one about domination. and no one should be listening to an enemy.

if you are right and the other person is wrong you are already walking into it as an enemy in explicit clarity: nostr has been enemy territory to me the entire time

i cant afford to not have it be enemy territory. i cant close comments. there are absolute freaks out here i cant block. i am outnumbered. not a tech person. there are also bots. i am a woman. my face is out there. and my name. there is no recourse.