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StackSats.IO StackSatsIO@nostr.com.au 5 days ago

That was a truly nice response to my contributions here which warrants a reply. You could again re-read this thread, you should! And take it both as flippant or some internet stranger taking jabs and see what you think; but let me clear up the intention for you from the source. You gaining a life isn’t a jab, that’s the truth and I laid that out with my point about what you will hand down to your family. I’m not some anti-gamer, I’ve played loads of games and still enjoy them occasionally even now with the baby. But they are entertainment; I’m not gonna hand down my RDR2 save in my will. The millions of dollars I have in GTAV won’t be bequeathed. That was time I wasted before I had kids. And you won’t hand down your Pokémon achievements either. My daughter will sit with me whilst I play 20-30 minutes before dinner some nights and go from fascinated watching, to wanting to eat the joysticks on my controller to smacking me in the face with whatever toys are nearby and that’s worth more to me than anything in any game. I don’t get in a zone any more, I pause when she wants attention and play with her instead. Right now I’m planning a big dinner for Oktoberfest; I’ll cook for 4 families and the kids and I’m working out invites. I nixed a German guy and his wife and daughter because he doesn’t pay attention to his girl the way the other fathers care about their kids. Having a kid, I literally couldn’t countenance having some bloke who would rather fuck around on his phone (ie animal crossing or whatever shit you’re worried about) than spend time with his kid. Not some “you must spend 100% of your time with your kid” rant, moreso I just can’t see myself having this guy at my house, drinking my beer, eating this feast which I will spend 3 days preparing so my kid can experience my culture with others who value that culture, to have someone who can’t control their own impulses and would rather play fucking games than with their kid. Why would I want him here? What’s the reflection on my daughter who doesnt see my on my phone constantly when he is? Play your games. Enjoy the distraction. Realise that’s what they are, like any other media. I’m saying; enjoy your kids every time the choice is between gaming and them. Go for a walk. Fix something. Build something. Play with them. Teach them. Just put your attention with them. That stuff and more is going to last much longer than your gaming history. Your tombstone won’t list your Pokémon achievements. Anyway thankyou for going and reading my notes and realising I wasn’t just some bitter cunt, and for replying and realising I wasn’t just trying to one up you. But please stop worrying about something as ephemeral as gaming. Go be with your kids who don’t care abou that stuff. ut games if youve got kids and

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BlessedBovine blessedbovine@mycircl.xyz 3 hours ago

I appreciate the message you're trying to spread. I think you took my initial note as it being something very important to me. It's minor, all things considered. It was hours of gameplay over many years, before kids. My second response to you was teasing you. It was meant to come across as a ridiculous idea. If you should know anything about me, it is that my time with my family and friends is the most important and valuable thing to me. My wife and I have been through Hell, and we've lived a lifetime in less than a year. We lost our first born to cancer in under that time. If you don't come away from an incredibly harrowing and humbling experience like that with a deep understanding of how important every moment of life is, you missed something. Respectfully, you're preaching to the choir. Many blessings, friend.

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Five years ago my wife and I started to expect children. Three years ago we found out we would likely never be able to conceive children due to a health defect of mine. A few months after that we were blessed with the opportunity to adopt our first son. Who we named Hank. An incredibly quick turn around thanks to our amazing adoption agency. Two years ago tonight, after a three and a half month fight, Hank was taken from us by his Cancer. It's amazing, the lifetime we lived with him. It almost feels as if Hank's life unfolded within a time pocket. That pocket became our world. When he slipped away from us, we slipped out of the pocket. Back into the reality of our vast world, with wave after wave of obligation and responsibility crashing into us. Our time with Hank radically reshaped our lives. Hank showed us the fragility of life. Showed us strength we didn't know we had. Possibly the most important thing he taught us is the importance of time, and how to spend it. So tonight, I'd just like to remind everyone to hug your loved ones, and thank God for every moment you have with them. You never know when you won't have that privilege anymore. In loving memory of our son, Hank. Have a blessed evening, from our family to yours.

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