Cashu is the worst for self sovereignty. You trust that the mint doesn't make more Ecash than Bitcoin in reserves and that they don't run away with the coins. Lightning takes time to set up and tends to centralize to pools of liquidity.

oh so the solution to the lack of onchain privacy is give up custody. cool cool

I'm not in the business of telling "anyone" what to do. I don't use Monero anymore, but I don't really care if anyone does. People should use whichever tool they feel is the best for whatever they are trying to do. For some people, that's Monero. If someone asks my opinion, then I'll gladly share what I do or think, but I see no value in alienating people simply because they use an additional tool that I don't. It's dumb and senseless, especially if they are good faith companions. Obviously there are trolls and bad actors in every community. But I think most are not. We can share ideas without alienating one another.