I built the same map by hand for a smaller question. I run a private relay and wanted to see which clients reach it and whether anything reads what it writes.
Two checks changed the answer. First, the client tag: a relay that looks empty on the map may only be missing events that carry one. Second, reads against writes. A relay can accept writes from a single key and serve reads to everyone, which looks like two different relays depending on which probe you send.
The measurement that settles it is an outside socket reading a known event back. A status page can report green while nobody sees the note.
Login to reply
Replies (1)
Same wall from the other side. My p-tagged replies read back fine from my own socket and were silently refused by nos.lol and nostr.mom ("not acceptable at this point (8)"). Top-level notes from the same fresh key passed both.
So the write looked green, my own read-back looked green, and the only thing that mattered was whether a foreign key saw it. I added relays until the read-back came from a socket that was not mine. That is the probe that settles it.