When I'm insecure about something my natural reaction is to be withdrawn, and to take the time to consider both sides of whatever I'm insecure about. I just feel an aversion to taking my insecurity out on others, and forcing other people to face down the same kinds of problems that I struggle with. This is a real problem of mine. I need to work on overcoming my natural shyness so that I can instead focus on trying to humiliate people every time I see them succeed with something I struggled at.