A year ago, I wrote an article for City AM, raising alarm bells about how children would be used to justify increasing online control under the pretence of protection. I warned that while laws like the Online Safety Bill may seem noble, they pave the way for overreach and the erosion of our freedoms. Now, with the Australian PM stepping in on similar issues, it’s clear the trend is accelerating. The more we surrender control, under the pretence of convenience or safety, the more we lose—and it's not just affecting us, it's shaping the world our kids are growing up in. As a parent, I’m struggling with the reality that I’ve handed my kids a dangerous device—a smartphone—one that society has normalised. It weighs heavily on me. The world is so focused on COVID, yet seems blind to the real epidemic: the pervasive influence of smartphones on all aspects of our lives. I fully appreciate the need for decentralised social media. In fact, when I shared my thoughts on the harms of social media on X, the post appeared to be shadow-banned. I know Nostr plays a key role in the fight against censorship, but how do we protect children from the darker sides of social media on platforms like Nostr? If it’s solely the responsibility of parents, the next generation of children could be at serious risk. I’m reminded of how our freedoms are being eroded when I’m forced to use a cash till at the supermarket, realising how we trade away freedom for convenience in every corner of life. We’re slowly surrendering control, and it’s no different with our kids. We say it’s for protecting children, but our children are far from safe. The dangers are real, and we turn a blind eye. If we stop them from participating in what’s “normal,” they face social isolation. Yes, parents should take responsibility. But let’s be honest: it’s not happening. So, now what? Governments claim they’re stepping in to stop misinformation, but we all know who the biggest culprits are—the ones with power. From the moment my kids were born, my instinct has been to protect them. But how can we say no when homework is assigned through apps and phones becomes essential? It’s a trap. I left my old career because I couldn’t turn a blind eye to what I saw happening, and now I find myself reluctantly accepting the evil of this tech-dominated world. Even adults struggle to regulate themselves with this tech. How can we expect kids to manage? Parents don’t seem to grasp the magnitude of what’s happening. We’ve normalised a tech designed to be addictive, bombarding our kids with violence, porn, and unrealistic expectations. Billionaires who design these tools keep their kids away from them—what does that tell us? This generation is drowning—sad, depressed, and lost. What are we going to do about it? Parents need to step up. We’re the adults here. The government can’t fix this for us, and expecting them to will only strip away more of our freedoms. I’m genuinely terrified for our kids, and it feels like no one else sees what’s really happening. From food to information, our entire world is poisoned. Bitcoin might be part of the solution, but that’s a conversation for another day. How do we protect our children without sacrificing our freedoms? The current system isn’t working—parents are overwhelmed, governments are overreaching, and tech giants are exploiting the very tools that shape our kids' lives. We need to find a solution, we’re leaving the next generation to navigate a dangerous and addictive digital world alone. The question I’m asking myself is: ‘How do we ensure our kids grow up safe, informed, and free?’

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Insightful post and have bookmarked the article for later reading. My feeling when it comes to this bill is that the ultimate goal is to make sure that going forward no one gets to use the internet anonymously thus giving the state the power to track your digital footprint and censor your voice easily. Online safety is just the excuse to bring the legislation in but I am willing to bet that the fine print of the law will pave the way for something more Orwellian. Paired with the digital ID law and subsequently a CBDC, this will be a maximum security digital prison, all without extending any protections to children.
This one is really tough. The reality is safety is an illusion. We can't forever protect our young people (& neither can any government or political system). The best we can do as parents is educate. Have deep, meaningful conversations with our kids. My 15 yo already has more control with her devices than anyone else in the house. She was the most addictive a few years ago. She's very aware and very educated & interested to self educate. My boy's are 17 and 8. They enjoy gaming. I had a conversation with my 8 yo asking if he knew that some kids might ask him to steal from others and make lots of money. He was already aware and said he blocks anyone that says anything like that to him. Communication is key. Also keep in mind, kids are extremely resilient. Probably more so than we give them credit for. Often as parents we wrap them in cotton wool trying to protect them. Then we feel guilty for not doing enough to protect them. The reality is, they can have any up bringing. We do the best we can. And as adults, they will have the choice - to be bitter about their childhood or to be forgiving and compassionate towards us for anything we didn't do perfectly 💛💛💛💛 As long as we are doing the best we can with what we know, that should be enough, and is already far more than previous generations could since we can access far more information (maybe it's not always for the best though) 😬 As adults, we get to choose our path forward. Just as our children will someday too. The best we can do is create a childhood we hope that they will remember as good. 😊 For our family that is travelling the world and living outside most systems as best we can. I talk to my children about all the things they wouldn't learn at school and not much of what they would 🤣 I think intuitively, we know what is best for our own. It looks different for each child & family. I'm sure you are doing an amazing job 💛💛💛💛
I've raised my little mini me to young adulthood now, she's about to turn 22 in a couple of months and I'll second what you say about the importance of communication. We definitely can't keep them safe from all harm, so the compassionate thing to do is arm them with the tools and knowledge the need to navigate the world, online and off, then trust them enough to explore safely. As a father I found it really tough having to explain the nature of the world to my beautiful innocent little girl, but she grew up taking heed, thank God.
Another great article Susie. Re: How do we protect our kids from the darker side of social media on Nostr? Definitely that's a work in progress. From what I understand from his Nostriga presentation, moderated Nostr experiences like Ditto by @Alex Gleason are emerging that might help in this area. From my perspective, one of the most concerning dangers of Social Media on kids is the dopamine destructive effects of the platforms algorithms itself. In this respect, Nostr feels way less brutal, less addicting more human. That's not to say there's no dangers, but at least the corporate platform isn't a predator.
This is the way 💯 Conversations to at least prepare our kids for some of the crazy realities they will likely encounter in their lives (& how to deal with them) is really the most we can do and let them experiment and experience with a watchful, caring parent eye until they are ready to go solo ✨
Don’t give them a device. Or lock it down just like your employer might. My oldest is 11, doesn’t have a device yet.
I love what you have written here. My first hand experience with people is that they don’t care about privacy, freedom and pay lip service to children’s safety. What they want is convenience, ease and to not have to think. They want everything to work seamlessly and are prepared to give up everything for that goal. Throw in free digital enslavement money and they are in it to win it. Only a few people care about the real problems and issues. I’m at a loss as to how to change that…
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Hendy 1 year ago
Excellent question and excellent post. These thoughts eventually led me to homeschool my kids, integrating a great co-op community nearby and it has made all the difference. We are homeschooling our kids from the day they were born and the only question is WHY DID WE STOP? Outsourcing the job to the state has been a more than 100 year mistake that has finally reached its full destructive potential. Resist and be the weirdo…it makes all the difference
Thanks Melisa and Susie for showing us that as parents we need to be accountable and seek the truth rather than become fooled into thinking that the centralised institutions created by government will keep us and our children safe. I've come to the realisation I don't want my kids growing up in Australia only to live in a glass prison where violations for civil liberty are taken so lightly. So it is time to execute on that #PlanB.
Winning 🏆 Also, in Australia, I saw some really interesting, dark, concrete prisons (opps schools) and thought jeez, that's setting kids up to be locked up - for reals looked like a prison (Western suburbs Sydney 😬)! In saying this, there are some great home ed communities in Australia 💯 I'll be looking forward to seeing you out in the world with you kids 🙌