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Wow! How do you do it? And how do you know you're doing a good job? Or at least an OK job? 😅

day by day, that's how I do it. Some days are better than others. As long as the kiddos are fed, clean and rested, I'm good. I think when you pause to ask yourself "am I doing a good job? is there something I can do better?" That is when you're on the right track. There will always be some measure of mom guilt. It's just the nature of motherhood. I make mistakes but I learn from them. That's all I can ask of myself. Be able to give myself grace and compassion for doing this very job is necessary. I also think it's important to take a little time everyday to do something that is outside of motherhood. I knit or play video games. Being able to forget that I'm a mom has been helpful for mental rest.

not sure what happened with that sentence 😆 it should read: Being able to give myself grace and compassion for doing this job is very necessary.

Thanks for the insight. Its such a big learning curve. Its reassuring to hear all of this. I think I still need to figure out how to make time for myself. Baby still doesn't want to be away from me for long, so I only manage to do simple things like brush my teeth or shower in the times that baby allows dad or grandma to hold her. 😅 I am slowly figuring things out.

it's hard to hear baby cry but giving others the chance to learn how to soothe her in their own way will make your and her life easier. Just like you have a learning curve, so does dad. It's way harder for Dad in a way. They don't have the natural instinct and don't tend to get as much time with baby as mom to learn baby's cues and behaviors. Feel free to message me any time, questions or just to talk ❤️

Yea, dad tries his best! He has become an expert swaddler, burper, and diaper changer. And found out she likes to be held like a football! But sometimes she is inconsolable and that's the toughest time 😣 Thank you! I appreciate it, and will likely reach out! Are nostr DMS OK? ❤

yes! DMs are fine