Why would you give your mother $400 to hold for you? Why wouldn’t you just hold it yourself?

something called financial abuse.

I didn't give it to her it was offered. not that she doesn't have thousands of dollars worth of my stuff anyway.

If you’re over 18, get the fuck outta there. I moved out at 17. Zero regrets. My parents suck.

Yeah, some lessons are painful. Just don’t offer to give her money anymore and cite this specific instance and how it affected your health. Boundaries are so important.

I don't even live with my parents. i've never consistently lived with my parents ever. I keep being pasted around to family member of family member as i'm an "annoying needy piece of shit" so I can do something with my life when everything I've wanted to do is already not even considered a fucking option because I'm a fucking idiot apparently.

You might have your family’s genetics, but you do not have to carry on their toxicity. I haven’t spoken to my parents in years and I wish I had cut them off sooner. The only family member I speak to is my sister. If you’re a minor, you can only bide your time and plan to leave. If you’re an adult, just leave. Start building the life you want. It’ll take years of blood sweat and tears, but it’s worth it. If can do it, you can too. You build a wall one brick at a time…

Thank you for the words of comfort.

It's unfortunately the other way around. I suppose to do everything my parents can't do with no education and none of the resources they have. Basically: I'm being punished for confiding in people because it "embarrassed" them so until I admit I'm "wrong" and fall to the feet of my mother who intentionally makes herself sick I'm exiled from the family.

I’ve been there. Just don’t go to the same people expecting different results. If nothing changes, nothing changes.

This is a mistake, make amends