I don't believe that at all. I believe there is an absolute difference between attaching oneself to an impulse and having one, forgiving yourself, and letting the thought pass out of your mind. "Looks after her with lustful INTENT" That does not sound like an impulse to me. That sounds like he inhabited the idea of having her. I did not say impulses should be fantasized about. They are angels and demons wispering to you. It is your choice to ignore them or be enslaved by them. Either to the extent of fantasy or action.