Agreed on mutual respect, and nobody should be forced into anything. But "let everyone live on their own terms" is a worldview too, and you're making the case for it, which is fine. Loving your wife and checking on your neighbor aren't a tribe. Nearly every culture in history called them good. And when there's no shared standard at all, every disagreement turns personal. A common measure is what lets people disagree without it becoming war.

I understand and really sympathize. But it is also true that tribalism drives human evolution. It is likely the main reason, to cite but one example, that the first true men refused to live among or breed with the much more numerous sub-men around them.