I felt the same way, the core problem I had was that each app overwrites your Kind0 when you open or use it. They basically seed the relays, profile pics, etc. while jumping from one app to another you often have relay problems and you loose the truth. What’s good with Nostr is that it is really basic and programmable. I got inspired with the torrent stack -arr (prowlarr, Lidarr, sonarr, radarr) and started to build my self hosted -str stack. I got idenstr as the brain: it holds my Nsec in a .env file. It has the truth of my metadata saved locally and is the one authorized to sign the events. It holds my profile (kind0), my follow list, my mute list, my relay list. I did feedstr, which is my client for feed. I connect it to idenstr via API token. It doesn’t see my seed, it only sends it to Idenstr for signature. It loads my follow profile, and my notes via a private local relay for fluidity. Everything is open source and works via docker container. I should maybe polish the GitHub and put some time into it but I frankly built it for myself