i'm working on a work-around, also, for the lack of DMs that affects paid relay operators who have an incentive to keep their customers, unlike the free relays who are receiving money from sponsors to keep up the freedumb services so that they can be spammed to hell. anyone who has read half of the base NIP specs would have run across the concept of not sending messages to people who haven't authed to the key of one of the pubkeys named in an event. really simple. somehow when i showed up 18 months ago nobody had picked up on this and actually implemented it. and the reason is, they are all hypnotised by the influencoors and their aNoNyMoUs powered brainwashing to not even consider the idea that nostr relay operators are not all going to be the kind of privacy violators that characterize the majority of internet service providers (if they aren't already known recipients of funding from spook agencies). some of us have been using the internet for social networking since long before facebook. people who offer such services or are running them for a community tend to be quite diligent about spam control and privacy protection. the complacency of most nostr rockstars about privacy is so freakin annoying. and then after you hear them talk about not wanting to be doxxed by authing in the next sentence they are complaining about adoption. oh, no connection between these things, i'm sure.