We are ready to cut toxic people out of our lives, when we are. There are many other people, who may not be toxic, but maybe toxic to us. Many of these people are also unwilling to own it or work on it. How many chances do these people get before we distance ourselves from them? There's no right answer, only what we choose for ourselves.
Narcissists will never admit or own the negative things they do because it would shatter the illusion they live in. It’s their home and they’re unwilling to move out. Nothing we can do will change that. We don’t have to live there though. We can move out whether we shatter their illusion or not.
Narcissists want to ruin everything, but they often use our words and language against us. They will gaslight us into believing that we are saying words or phrases wrong, just to mess with and confuse us. It has nothing to do with this and everything to do with control. What are the words or phrases your ex used against you?
I'm sorry. I do not ever want anyone to think anything I talk about on my videos is calling them out, unless I clearly say that. I also don't post anything specific without getting permission first. It's never my intention to bring any additional shame, judgement or grief to anyone's life. While this video is a bit light hearted, please also realize I take all of this seriously. I love you all and thank you for being here!!❤️
Narcissistic abuse takes all of the good things about you and turns them around to shame, judge and devalue you with them. You end up questioning if you even had any of the good things you once thought you were. It's all a lie. You don't have to believe their illusion! You are amazing just as you are!
I probably could have added that hurt people hurt people. The hard part about generalizations is that they are just that, generalizations. They only are helpful when they are. The rest of the time they are absolute garbage! I hope this individual gets the help and support they need. And if I'm wrong in my assumption, I'll own that too.
So many people have dysfunctional behaviors that seem narcissistic. Other people may even say things about them seeming narcissistic. This does not mean that they or you are actually a narcissist. We all have things we can be working through, that doesn't make us a narcissist though. Do the work to heal and move forward with your life.
Narcissists get their supply in any way they can. There's abuse and manipulation of course. They also get it from their pets and children other people by showing the world what a good parent or person they are. This is all an illusion to get supply. We don't have to participate in their illusion!
Narcissists will remove and erase you from their lives faster than even seems possible. They love social media, because they can just erase all memories and evidence you even existed in their lives. This isn’t normal, except for narcissists. The good news then is, hopefully, they’re actually gone from our lives.
The good news about taking this masterclass is after you've done the work of healing you may never need to take this class again. If you do, the chances are it will be a much shorter class than the first time and you'll heal much quicker with less effort. This, unfortunately, is the only good news about this class.
So many people are ready to make big changes and set all the huge goals so that we can be enough. The reality is many of these things simply set us up for failure and make us feel worse about ourselves. I won't say it's wrong to do it. I will say it's much better to make small changes in habits that will propel you towards the future, life and person you want to be. Then continue to build on these habits throughout the year.
Toxic people simply ruin every single special occasion, even if it's about them. They must create drama and chaos and that's definitely what they do. There isn't really anything we can do about it either. No matter what happens or how we react, we can be kind to ourselves and even when we don't, we can try again.
The only way to win with toxic people is to not participate in their games. They will do anything and everything to make you lose, even if it means they lose too. It doesn't make sense, but it's the way they are. The way you win is to focus on yourself, healing and moving forward with your life.
Narcissists are going to explode. It’s only a matter of when, where and how bad. It will happen though at some point. The only safe way to deal with them, is not to as much as you possibly can. It isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but it’s the truth. Away from them is the only safe place to be.
We can't beat ourselves into healing or growth and it never works in the long term for anyone else either. We must support and allow ourselves and others to make these changes. It can't be forced no matter how bad we want it. Even if it works short term, it's eventually detrimental. Be kind to you!
We can't beat ourselves into healing or growth and it never works in the long term for anyone else either. We must support and allow ourselves and others to make these changes. It can't be forced no matter how bad we want it. Even if it works short term, it's eventually detrimental. Be kind to you!
Most of us unfortunately have had people in our lives who have made us feel not good enough. Whether it was intentional or not is another story. We can all get better and improve things in our life, but we are enough just as we are now! You don't have to accept what anyone else thinks of you or what you do! Choose yourself!
I laughed a lot for a long time thinking that I had cheated death in escaping narcissists. Some of this I realize was a trauma response, but it was also a healthy way of me releasing emotions that had been stuck in my body. It's ok no matter how we respond to what we went through. Take the time and do the work to heal.
Relationships with narcissists are only about surviving moment to moment. We never know when the next bomb will drop, or if they’ll try to love bomb us before or after. It keeps us continually on edge, which allows them to control us. We don’t have to live this way. Choose yourself and do the work to heal and move forward with your life!
They may not be directly abusive. They could simply be neglectful and unavailable. It doesn't even necessarily mean they are a narcissist. It also doesn't mean that it's not abuse. Neglect is abuse. It's still harmful, it just looks different than other abuse. It still hurts everyone involved!
