As a father, there are times when you will know more than your children. You will understand the world and how it works in a way that your children never will until they experience it for themselves. Sometimes the hardest thing is to step back and let those experiences happen, then be there to help pick up the pieces after.
It hurts.
This is my attempt to spare others some of that hurt. It is an effort to share insight from someone who has seen more of the world, so that others might learn from experiences and mistakes without repeating them.
FOR MEN LOOKING FOR A WIFE:
Body Count Matters
Men seeking a committed relationship and family life generally do not value high sexual experience in a potential wife—quite the opposite. A family-oriented man tends to avoid women with significant baggage. He does not want to raise another man’s children, marry into debt, or deal with major drama. Instead, he looks for purity, youth, commitment, honor, and a willingness to follow his lead on major household decisions.
When a woman has been with many men, most of these qualities become far less likely. A high body count often means constant (even subconscious) comparisons to previous lovers. “Bad boys” tend to be more exciting but less reliable as providers and fathers. This can create lifestyle expectations that clash with family life. The “grass is always greener” mentality can lead to restlessness, dissatisfaction in the bedroom, or financial irresponsibility that ultimately damages or destroys the family.
Status Does Not Matter
For a traditional man, a woman’s professional success or career achievements carry little weight. He intends to be the primary provider for the family. Many women tend to view the money they earn as “hers” and the money he earns as “theirs”—a dynamic that often creates tension.
A demanding career also means significant time away from home and children. Child-rearing is frequently outsourced to daycare and institutions that may not share your values. This reduces daily proximity, weakens the familial bond, leads to fewer home-cooked meals, and brings more work-related stress into the household. Most men are willing to work hard to provide, but in return they expect peace in the home and their needs to be met—outcomes that are far more difficult when the wife is heavily focused on her career.
For Both Husbands and Wives:
Religious Convictions Matter
DO NOT enter a serious relationship with someone of a different faith.
DO NOT enter a serious relationship with someone from a different denomination or sect.
DO NOT DO IT!
Nothing good is likely to come from it. Religious differences tend to drive wedges between spouses, spark repeated arguments, confuse children, reduce church involvement, and sometimes lead one or both partners to drift away from the faith.
The Bible warns:
"Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
- II Corinthians 6:14 (NASB)
Resolve Arguments Before Sleeping
Address problems immediately. Do not let them fester like an infection. Have enough faith in each other that you can have hard conversations about difficult problems without worrying that the other will leave and give up. It is much easier to fix a problem in its infancy that when it is full grown. Do not give it a chance to grow. There is no doubt that you will face difficult situations; we all do. Godly people—and especially godly marriages—are prime targets of the enemy. Expect difficulties and deal with them early.
Make a Habit of Praying Together
couple that prays together tends to stay on the same path. When you focus on God first, everything else tends to fall into place. Praying together reminds you of your priorities and shared goals. It also helps you express things that are difficult to say otherwise. Talking to your Heavenly Father about what troubles you or excites you is one of the most natural and powerful things you can do as a couple. Seek His wisdom and guidance together.
Remember Your Vows
Are you a Man or Woman of honor?
Who did you make your promise to?
As a Christian you promised to GOD to honor your spouse according you His rules and guidance.
As a Husband or Wife you promised to your spouse that you would put their welfare and that of the family unit above your own desires.
As a Son- or Daughter-In-Law you promised these same things to your spouse's extended family.
A whole host of people are counting on you to live as a person of honor. They will (and should) hold you accountable to the vows you willingly made. Do not become angry when they remind you of your obligations.
Live a life of honor. Set an example for your children. They are counting on you.
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The Voluntaryist Patriot - A Father's Advice
As a father, there are times when you will know more than your children. You will understand the world and how it works in a way that your children...
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Saturday (Nissan 9 : Sunset Friday to Sunset Saturday)
Jesus arrives in Bethany
“Therefore, six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany where Lazarus was, whom Jesus had raised from the dead. So they made Him a dinner there, and Martha was serving; and Lazarus was one of those reclining at the table with Him. Mary then took a pound of very expensive perfume of pure nard, and anointed the feet of Jesus and wiped His feet with her hair; and the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume. But Judas Iscariot, one of His disciples, the one who intended to betray Him, *said, “Why was this perfume not sold for three hundred denarii and the proceeds given to poor people?” Now he said this, not because he cared about the poor, but because he was a thief, and as he kept the money box, he used to steal from what was put into it. Therefore Jesus said, “Leave her alone, so that she may keep it for the day of My burial. For you always have the poor with you, but you do not always have Me.” ” John 12:1-8
What is the significance of anointing the feet of Jesus?
There are two cases where a woman anointed the feet of Jesus.
“Now one of the Pharisees was requesting Him to eat with him, and He entered the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. And there was a woman in the city who was a sinner; and when she learned that He was reclining at the table in the Pharisee’s house, she brought an alabaster vial of perfume, and standing behind Him at His feet, weeping, she began to wet His feet with her tears, and she wiped them with the hair of her head, and began kissing His feet and anointing them with the perfume.” Luke 7:36-38, (NASB)
This unnamed woman, who is simply called “a sinner,” was compelled to enter into a Pharisee’s house in order to anoint the feet of the Savior of sinners. It was a display her love and affections for the Lord who had forgiven her, for Jesus said,
“For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but the one who is forgiven little, loves little.” Luke 7:47 (NASB)
She “loved much” because she had been “forgiven much,” and she was willing to lavish upon her newfound Savior a whole box of precious perfume to show to all in the house her appreciation and gratitude for being forgiven.
The second case of a woman anointing the feet of Jesus is found in three passages: Matthew 26:6-13; Mark 14:3-9; and John 12:1-8.
“Therefore, six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany where Lazarus was, whom Jesus had raised from the dead. So they made Him a dinner there, and Martha was serving; and Lazarus was one of those reclining at the table with Him. Mary then took a pound of very expensive perfume of pure nard, and anointed the feet of Jesus and wiped His feet with her hair; and the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume.” John 12:1-3 (NASB)
In the first case noted above, the anointing took place in the house of a Pharisee, but in Mark 14:3 we learn that this anointing happened “in the house of Simon the leper.” The former was done by an unnamed sinful woman; this was done by Mary, the sister of Martha and Lazarus. The anointing by the unnamed sinner was to signify the love of a newly forgiven soul, but with Mary there was another reason that constrained her to empty her box of costly ointment upon the Savior’s feet.
“Leave her alone, so that she may keep it for the day of My burial. ” John 12:7, (NASB)
Mark is even more specific,
“She has done what she could; she has anointed My body beforehand for the burial.” Mark 14:8 (NASB)
She anointed Jesus’ feet in view of His impending death and burial! She was no doubt expressing her love for her Savior, as in the case of the sinful woman in the home of the Pharisee, but she had also entered into the truth that Jesus was on His way to the cross to die for her and this was her chance to anoint Him in anticipation of His burial. I have always admired Mary for she seems to have been the only disciple that truly believed Jesus when he announced that He would be crucified, buried and then rise from the dead the third day. Mary BELIEVED HIM and expressed her faith by anointing His feet! Jesus was so moved by her faith that He declared,
“Truly I say to you, wherever the gospel is preached in the entire world, what this woman has done will also be told in memory of her.” Mark 14:9 (NASB)
Palm Sunday (Nissan 10 : Saturday Sunset - Sunday Sunset)
Triumphal Entry to Jerusalem
According to the Biblical record
On this day almost 2000 years ago
“...when the large crowd that had come to the feast heard that Jesus was coming to Jerusalem, they took the branches of the palm trees and went out to meet Him, and began shouting, “Hosanna! Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord, indeed, the King of Israel!” Jesus, finding a young donkey, sat on it; as it is written: “Do not fear, daughter of Zion; behold, your King is coming, seated on a donkey’s colt.” ” John 12:12-15(NASB)
Why is this important?
It is stated in the verses above. This fulfilled a prophecy of the Messiah.
This kind of welcome signifies a few things:
• That they all knew Christ as the Messiah (see Psalm 118:25-26)
• That they recognized that Christ is King (see 2 Kings 9:13)
• They all honored Him as both King and Messiah (see Zechariah 9:9)
• He is openly acknowledging that He IS the Messiah by accepting the way the crowds honor him.
"And yet some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to Him, “Teacher, rebuke Your disciples!” Jesus replied, “I tell you, if these stop speaking, the stones will cry out!” " Luke 19:39-40
This sets the stage for everything else that happens in the following week.
Jesus visits the temple briefly and returns to Bethany for the night. (Mark 11:11)
Monday (Nissan 11 : Sunday Sunset – Monday Sunset )
According to the Biblical record
On this day almost 2000 years ago
Cursing the Fig Tree
On the way to Jerusalem, Jesus curses a barren fig tree, symbolizing judgment on unfruitful Israel (Matthew 21:18–19; Mark 11:12–14).
Cleansing of the temple
“And Jesus entered the temple grounds and began to drive out those who were selling, saying to them, “It is written: ‘And My house will be a house of prayer,’ but you have made it a den of robbers.” And He was teaching daily in the temple; but the chief priests and the scribes and the leading men among the people were trying to put Him to death, and yet they could not find anything that they might do, for all the people were hanging on to every word He said.” Luke 19:45-48(NASB)
The Jews had profaned the Temple and perverted its purpose. Jesus came to bring everyone a way to be right with God. The old had to be done away with to make way for the new. The Lord had previously dwelt within the Temple. In the coming days He chose to make his dwelling within the believers where ever they might be. It was a shift from the corporate to the personal relationship. Instead of relying on a human priest to intercede for us, Jesus himself becomes our High Priest and the Holy spirit our intercessor. Jesus was teaching the people with authority; something that the Jewish leaders could no longer do. Jesus was speaking truth and they could not say otherwise. With every word, he called into question the legitimacy of the very people who were charged with leading the community.
Jesus Speaks to a group of Greeks (Gentiles) and predicts his death.
“ “Now My soul has become troubled; and what shall I say, ‘Father, save Me from this hour’? But for this purpose I came to this hour. Father, glorify Your name.” Then a voice came out of heaven: “I have both glorified it, and will glorify it again.” So the crowd of people who stood by and heard it were saying that it had thundered; others were saying, “An angel has spoken to Him.” Jesus answered and said, “This voice has not come for My sake, but for your sakes. Now judgment is upon this world; now the ruler of this world will be cast out. And I, if I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all men to Myself.” But He was saying this to indicate the kind of death by which He was to die.” John 12:27-33(NASB)
God spoke and EVERYONE heard. He was pronouncing judgment upon the whole of the Earth and it’s ruler Satan.
Jesus returns to Bethany for the night (Mark 11:19).
Tuesday (Nissan 12 : Monday Sunset -Tuesday Sunset)
According to the Biblical record
On this day almost 2000 years ago
Questioned by Jewish Leaders
Jesus was teaching the people and day by day the people grew to respect Him more and more. The Jewish leaders saw what was happening and tried to stop Him. They tried to turn the people away from the influence of Jesus and back to themselves. Jesus responded in a way that the leaders could not refute and it infuriated them. The leaders tried to entrap Him with His own words. They called on him to answer questions of Jewish and Roman law but He answered in ways that adhered to both while at the same time protected him from legal consequence. They were even afraid to use their own authority to seize him in from of the crowds because of the sentiment of the crowds. Thus they began plotting in secret how and when to take him.
Jesus was confronted by the Chief Priests and Elders of the people
“When He entered the temple, the chief priests and the elders of the people came to Him while He was teaching, and said, “By what authority are You doing these things, and who gave You this authority?” Jesus said to them, “I will also ask you one thing, which if you tell Me, I will also tell you by what authority I do these things. The baptism of John was from what source, from heaven or from men?” And they began reasoning among themselves, saying, “If we say, ‘From heaven,’ He will say to us, ‘Then why did you not believe him?’ But if we say, ‘From men,’ we fear the people; for they all regard John as a prophet.” And answering Jesus, they said, “We do not know.” He also said to them, “Neither will I tell you by what authority I do these things.”
Matt 21:23-27
Parable of Two Sons
“But what do you think? A man had two sons, and he came to the first and said, ‘Son, go work today in the vineyard.’ And he answered, ‘I will not’; but afterward he regretted it and went.The man came to the second and said the same thing; and he answered, ‘I will, sir’; but he did not go. Which of the two did the will of his father?” They *said, “The first.” Jesus *said to them, “Truly I say to you that the tax collectors and prostitutes will get into the kingdom of God before you. For John came to you in the way of righteousness and you did not believe him; but the tax collectors and prostitutes did believe him; and you, seeing this, did not even feel remorse afterward so as to believe him.
Matt 21:28-32
Parable of the Landowner
“Listen to another parable. There was a landowner who planted a vineyard and put a wall around it and dug a wine press in it, and built a tower, and rented it out to vine-growers and went on a journey. When the harvest time approached, he sent his slaves to the vine-growers to receive his produce. The vine-growers took his slaves and beat one, and killed another, and stoned a third. Again he sent another group of slaves larger than the first; and they did the same thing to them. But afterward he sent his son to them, saying, ‘They will respect my son.’ But when the vine-growers saw the son, they said among themselves, ‘This is the heir; come, let us kill him and seize his inheritance.’ They took him, and threw him out of the vineyard and killed him. Therefore when the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those vine-growers?” They *said to Him, “He will bring those wretches to a wretched end, and will rent out the vineyard to other vine-growers who will pay him the proceeds at the proper seasons.”
“Jesus *said to them, “Did you never read in the Scriptures,
‘The stone which the builders rejected,
This became the chief corner stone;
This came about from the Lord,
And it is marvelous in our eyes’?
Therefore I say to you, the kingdom of God will be taken away from you and given to a people, producing the fruit of it. And he who falls on this stone will be broken to pieces; but on whomever it falls, it will scatter him like dust.” When the chief priests and the Pharisees heard His parables, they understood that He was speaking about them. When they sought to seize Him, they feared the people, because they considered Him to be a prophet.”
Matthew 21:33-46
Parable of the Wedding Banquet
“Jesus spoke to them again in parables, saying,“The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who gave a wedding feast for his son. And he sent out his slaves to call those who had been invited to the wedding feast, and they were unwilling to come. Again he sent out other slaves saying, ‘Tell those who have been invited, “Behold, I have prepared my dinner; my oxen and my fattened livestock are all butchered and everything is ready; come to the wedding feast.”’ But they paid no attention and went their way, one to his own farm, another to his business, and the rest seized his slaves and mistreated them and killed them. But the king was enraged, and he sent his armies and destroyed those murderers and set their city on fire. Then he said to his slaves, ‘The wedding is ready, but those who were invited were not worthy. Go therefore to the main highways, and as many as you find there, invite to the wedding feast.’ Those slaves went out into the streets and gathered together all they found, both evil and good; and the wedding hall was filled with dinner guests. But when the king came in to look over the dinner guests, he saw a man there who was not dressed in wedding clothes, and he *said to him, ‘Friend, how did you come in here without wedding clothes?’ And the man was speechless. Then the king said to the servants, ‘Bind him hand and foot, and throw him into the outer darkness; in that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’ For many are called, but few are chosen.”
Matt 22:1-14
Tribute to Caesar
“Then the Pharisees went and plotted together how they might trap Him in what He said. And they sent their disciples to Him, along with the Herodians, saying, “Teacher, we know that You are truthful and teach the way of God in truth, and defer to no one; for You are not partial to any. Tell us then, what do You think? Is it lawful to give a poll-tax to Caesar, or not?” But Jesus perceived their malice, and said, “Why are you testing Me, you hypocrites? Show Me the coin used for the poll-tax.” And they brought Him a denarius. And He said to them, “Whose likeness and inscription is this?” They *said to Him, “Caesar’s.” Then He said to them, “Then render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s; and to God the things that are God’s.” And hearing this, they were amazed, and leaving Him, they went away.”
Matt 22:15-22
Jesus denounces the scribes and Pharisees (Matthew 23).
On the Mount of Olives, Jesus delivers the Olivet Discourse, prophesying the destruction of Jerusalem and his second coming (Matthew 24–25; Mark 13; Luke 21:5–36).
The Passover feast is tomorrow. Peter and John are sent to make preparations for what is later to be known as The Last Supper; the last time Jesus would eat and drink with his disciples before he dies.
Wednesday (Nissan13 : Tuesday Sunset – Wednesday Sunset)
According to the Biblical record
On this day almost 2000 years ago
Passover and The Betrayal
Jesus and the rest of the Disciples arrive at the upper room where the meal is to be served.
Jesus washes the Disciples feet and teaches them many things.
Jesus predicts his betrayal by Judas.
Jesus institutes the practice of communion with the breaking of bread and drinking of wine.
"When the hour had come, He reclined at the table, and the apostles with Him. And He said to them, “I have earnestly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer; for I say to you, I shall never again eat it until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God.” And when He had taken a cup and given thanks, He said, “Take this and share it among yourselves; for I say to you, I will not drink of the fruit of the vine from now on until the kingdom of God comes.” And when He had taken some bread and given thanks, He broke it and gave it to them, saying, “This is My body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of Me.” And in the same way He took the cup after they had eaten, saying, “This cup which is poured out for you is the new covenant in My blood." Luke 22:14-20
After the meal Jesus and his Disciples travel to the Mount of Olives and He predicts his imminent death and resurrection.
Jesus and his Disciples arrive a the Garden of Gethsemane. While there, Jesus tells his Disciples “My soul is deeply grieved, to the point of death” and goes farther into the garden alone to pray to God about the events soon to occur.
After Jesus finishes praying and returns to His Disciples He is confronted by Judas Iscariot along with the Roman cohort and officers from the chief priests and the Pharisees.
Jesus is arrested and hauled away to be tried by the Sanhedrin in the dead of night…
The Trials of Jesus Christ:
(The first 3 trials were all for the offense of Blasphemy and judged by the Jews)
• First trial, before Annas [nighttime hours]; Annas is looking for an accusation, biding time till Sanhedrin is gathered at High Priestly villa.
• Second [and primary] trial before Sanhedrin, Jesus is condemned.
• Third trial, immediately at dawn: the condemnation repeated, then Jesus taken to Romans
(The last 3 trials were for the offense of Treason against Rome, because Blasphemy was not a capital offense under Roman Law, and judged by Roman Authorities)
• Fourth trial before Pilate
• Fifth trial before Herod
• Sixth trial before Pilate
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The Crucifixion:
• Jesus is scourged, but this is not enough for the mob that the Sanhedrin had paid off, so the crowd yells, "Crucify Him or we will tell Rome!"
• Jesus is finally turned over to be crucified.
• Jesus mocked by Roman soldiers and a crown of thorns is forced into Jesus's head
• Jesus bears His cross to gate on north of city and is crucified around 9 am
Jesus Dies (about 3 pm):
• Roman Soldier pierces Jesus' side side with a spear to ensure that he is dead.
• The veil outside the Holy of Holies torn in two from the top to the bottom.
• The Earth Shakes
• Some graves opened and dead people rise again and go into the city.
• Passover lambs slain in temple
Jesus buried by sundown
Jesus had committed no crimes, had not sinned against God, and had followed all the rules of the old covenant. In short, He was perfect.
The Jewish priests of that time felt threatened by his teachings. They had tried to turn the public against Him many times in the past with no success. Finally they arrested Him in the dead of night, brought Him to a trial (in a way that violated their own rules) before a prejudiced court, and found Him guilty, all of this while the rest of the city slept. They then turned Him over to the Roman Authorities and threatened a revolt if he was not executed.
He was beaten, whipped raw, and forced to carry his own cross through the city and up the hill to Golgotha. There, His hands and feet were nailed to this wooden cross. It was then raised up for all to see. Jesus hung there between two other crucified men for about 6 hours, slowly weakening and suffocated to death.
The sky turned dark from about noon until 3 pm.
When Jesus finally did die:
• there was an earthquake
• the curtain separating the ark of the covenant in the Holy of Holies from the rest of the temple was torn completely in two
• many holy people who had previously died were raised to life and seen throughout the city by many people.
When all these things happened and were witnessed by the roman soldiers standing guard over those crucified on the hill of Golgotha "...they were terrified, and exclaimed, “Surely he was the Son of God!”" (Matthew 27:51)
Finally just before sundown Jesus's body was wrapped in linen cloth and laid to rest in a tomb. A large stone was rolled in front of the tomb's opening.
The man who claimed to be the Son of the God Most High, Maker of the Heavens and the Earth was dead.
Witnessed by hundreds if not thousands, verified with a spear through His side by the roman soldiers, and buried in donated grave,
Jesus was Dead...
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Now, here are some of the illegalities of the Jewish trials.
1. If a man was arrested for a capital crime, he could never be arrested at night. It had to be in broad daylight. Jesus' arrest took place between 1 and 2 o'clock at night.
2. If a man was arrested for a capital crime, no one cooperating in the arrest could be in any way connected to the one who is accused. No arrest for a capital crime could be made based upon information given by a follower or colleague of the accused. Because they felt if the accused was guilty so were his followers. But the entire plot revolved around Judas, one of the followers. This law was blatantly and openly ignored.
3. No Jewish trial could ever be held at night. The law stated that it must be held in the daytime. Listen to the code, which is taken from the Talmud: “The members of the court may not alertly and intelligently hear the testimony against the accused during the hours of darkness.” But, if you check the record, both before Annas and before Caiaphas, these trials were held in darkness.
4. The members of the Jewish court, after hearing the testimony of true witnesses (none of which were ever brought before Jesus) in a capital crime, could not immediately act and judge. They were to go home and remain alone and separate from one another for two days (at the least, one full day), thinking about the testimonies they had heard. During that time, here's what they were to do. Here's the language of the code: “Eat like food, drink like wines, sleep well. And once again return and hear the testimony of the accused. Then, and only then, shall you render a vote.” They didn't do that. They Jewish court never left the presence of Caiaphas!
5. In fact, even the method of voting was specified! They never took an “all in favor say I, all opposed say no” kind of vote. Their vote was supposed to be taken from the youngest to the oldest so that the youngest wouldn't be intimidated or influenced by the older votes. This never happened.
No trial could be held before only one judge, and never without a defense attorney. All of that was overlooked, openly, willfully ignored and disobeyed. They didn't follow their own rules.
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