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Max Parfeniuk
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Gestalt Actively developing my private practice in this modality https://p2p-therapy.space/en Frontend Engineer, still building stuff on the side https://agnostric.space - nostr client (Jumble fork) tailored for cozy aesthetic lovers https://thioda.site - the map to explore historical Europe beyond its modern borders Libertarian Appreciate the libertarian lens, but prefer nuances over dogma. Permanently rethinking and revising my views Values freedom, dignity, love
Yesterday wife ironically pointed out a paradox that our generation is like axolotls who realized with horror that they've started to age. Are we really beginning to lose the superpower of these wonder-creatures? image
It turns out I somehow manage to hold both an engineering perspective and a holistic Gestalt view of things at the same time, even though these are completely different worlds and approaches. I promised myself I wouldn’t spam "AI-generated wisdom", but I just can’t help sharing this one—forgive me 😁. I asked Gemini: "Why shouldn't therapy be viewed through the lens of IT bug fixing, even though it's so tempting?" warning for those allergic to AI: proceed at your own risk 😁: The attempt to apply the metaphor of debugging and fixing to the human psyche is a very understandable temptation, especially in our rational world. It gives a sense of control: here is a system error (anxiety, depression, burnout), here is the "bug report" (symptoms), and now we will find the broken line of code, write a patch—and the system will revert to its default normal operation. However, if you look at it through the eyes of a Gestalt therapist, this approach doesn't just fail to work—it actually halts genuine change. And here is why this is a much deeper and more complex, holistic story. A symptom is not a bug; it is a creative adjustment In programming, a bug is a logic error that wasn't supposed to happen. In Gestalt, what a person considers a "bug" (for example, the habit of self-devaluation, avoiding conflict, or freezing emotions) was once the best available solution for survival. It is a creative adjustment to a difficult environment in the past. When a child was punished for expressing anger, their "patch"—suppressing that anger—saved their relationship with their parents. They didn't "break"; they adapted. Trying to simply cut this mechanism out like unnecessary code means invalidating a huge piece of their experience and defense system. The Paradoxical Theory of Change In an IT model, we take State A (wrong) and forcefully push it into State B (right). In Gestalt therapy, there is a core principle formulated by Arnold Beisser: change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Attempting to "fix" oneself creates an internal war (what Fritz Perls called the conflict between the "topdog" and the "underdog"). True transformation is born not from fixing, but from fully acknowledging and experiencing what is happening with me right now. A human being is not an algorithm; it is the "organism-environment" field Code runs in an isolated environment. A human being, however, exists only in context—in the organism-environment field. We do not function in a vacuum. How you feel right now depends on your physical state, your relationships with loved ones, the war around you, a word you heard in the morning, and a million other details. You cannot simply "rewrite a function" inside your head, because your reaction is a living, dynamic process of interacting with the entire surrounding context. Wholeness instead of rationalization Debugging is purely intellectual, analytical work. But a human being doesn't live solely in their head. From a holistic point of view, we are a unity of thoughts, bodily sensations, emotions, and behavioral impulses. For instance, a person might understand rationally ("fixing the code") that public speaking is safe, yet their body contracts in terror. Until we return to the body, feel that constricted breath, and unpack the unfinished emotional figure, no "logical patch" will work. Therapy happens in the "Here and Now" contact A developer fixes code independently using tools. Therapy, first and foremost, is a meeting of two subjects. What heals is not an algorithm or correct interpretations, but the lived experience of a relationship with the therapist in the "here and now"—a space where one can try being different, being seen, accepted, and not "fixed." Therefore, therapy is not a service center for repairing the psyche. It is more of a joint research expedition where we explore: "How exactly do you organize your life in a way that makes it difficult for you? What need is hidden behind this irritation? And how can you reclaim your freedom of choice?"
Czech Republic to cease granting temporary protection to Ukrainian men of draft age. This is not protection, but a privilege granted by a bureaucrat. They can give it if they want, or withhold it if they don't. The European state does not recognize rights, just like any other. 😔 In my autobiographical essay, I touched upon the topic of mobilization. View article →
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Max Parfeniuk 3 weeks ago
image 😁 "​On the topic of ageism in IT hiring: ​I believe candidates 40+, who have at least 10+ years of experience, should be hired immediately. ​Because if a person hasn't burned to ashes by this time and hasn't told it all to go to hell, leaving to look for an abandoned lighthouse, nothing will phase them anymore."
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Max Parfeniuk 3 weeks ago
Not long ago, while in a train compartment headed to Budapest, I met a young family from Israel. We talked for an hour and realized we have a lot in common. We exchanged contacts. It turned out they are artists—a painter and his wife, Stella Got, a musician. I’m sharing a song from her latest album with you. True art should grow and spread.
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Max Parfeniuk 1 month ago
"The road to serfdom" the book I reccomend to read. We think it happens with other scesieties but not mine and it can be a trap.
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Max Parfeniuk 2 months ago
If we look at European dentistry (and healthcare in general) through a libertarian or anarcho-capitalist lens, the root of the problem is obvious: state regulation has destroyed the free market, created an artificial scarcity, and killed healthy competition. ​Here are the key areas that are broken in the European system from a libertarian perspective and need to be "fixed" (meaning completely liberated from state control): ​1. Abolishing Artificial Scarcity via Medical Licensing and Guilds ​In most European countries, dental chambers (the modern equivalent of medieval guilds) and ministries of health strictly limit the number of people who can practice. ​The Problem: University enrollment quotas, combined with overly complex and highly bureaucratized diploma recognition procedures for talented doctors from outside the EU, create an artificial staff shortage. ​The Fix: Abolish the state monopoly on licensing. The market is perfectly capable of regulating quality through reputation, independent certification bodies (like private quality associations), and client reviews. Easing access to the profession would instantly saturate the market with qualified specialists. ​2. Eliminating Insurance and Socialist Price Distortion ​When a third party pays for a service—be it a state health insurance fund (like the German Krankenkasse) or a private insurance company bound by thousands of regulations—rather than the patient directly, market pricing collapses. ​The Problem: Doctors are forced to align their pricing with state service catalogs, wasting chunks of time on paperwork and reporting instead of treating patients. Patients never see the actual cost of services, and clinics stop competing for the client's satisfaction, competing instead for payouts from insurance funds. ​The Fix: Shift to a Direct Primary Care model and a transparent cash-only or crypto-driven market for services. When patients pay out of pocket, clinics are forced to compete for every single customer by lowering prices and improving service (exactly how it works in the laser eye surgery or cosmetics industries, where state intervention is minimal). ​3. Deregulating Medical Equipment and Materials ​European regulators (such as CE marking bodies and local medical agencies) erect massive barriers to entry for new materials, implants, or dental software. ​The Problem: To certify a new, cheaper, or more effective composite material or a 3D printer for crowns, it takes years and millions of euros spent on bureaucracy. As a result, clinics are forced to purchase insanely expensive certified equipment, baking those costs right into the price of your filling. ​The Fix: Freedom of choice for both the doctor and the patient. If a doctor takes on the reputational and contractual liability for using a specific material or technology, the state has no right to interfere. ​4. Ending the Monopoly on Pharmacy Goods and Prescriptions ​Even basic prevention or specific post-procedure medications are over-regulated in the EU. ​The Problem: You cannot buy a strong painkiller or a specific antiseptic without waiting in line for a prescription and paying for yet another doctor's visit. ​The Fix: Complete freedom of trade in pharmaceuticals. The responsibility for consumption lies with the individual, not with a nanny state. ​The Bottom Line: Modern European dentistry is not about dental health; it is about servicing a system of licenses, insurance protocols, and tax schemes. ​To fix this, we don't need "cheaper state funding." We just need to kick the government out of the room, allowing a patient with capital and a doctor with tools to trade directly under the laws of the free market. High-quality service and reasonable prices will emerge naturally, just as they always do wherever regulators are absent.
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Max Parfeniuk 3 months ago
In the heart of Tokai region. Love this peaceful spot. #tokai #hungary #Erdőbénye
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Max Parfeniuk 4 months ago
I asked a Genie about the current situation in Ukraine. I gave him the lens of Kurt Lewin (Field Theory) and Mises (Methodological Individualism). WARNING: AI CONTENT -> Using the intellectual lenses of Kurt Lewin (Field Theory) and Ludwig von Mises (Methodological Individualism), we can describe the current situation in Ukraine as a state of total field entropy. This is where the survival vectors of the individual have entered a head-on collision with the survival vectors of the state structure. When the psychological field becomes "chronic, dense, and eerie," it describes a "High-Tension Field without Discharge." According to Lewin, if tension in a system rises without a release valve, the system begins to deform everything within itself. 1. The TCC as "Field Radiation" (Note: TCC stands for Territorial Recruitment Center—the state military enlistment offices responsible for mobilization). In a healthy state, the government attempts to remain invisible (Minarchism). However, the TCC has transformed into an object of maximum negative valence (−). It is no longer just an institution; it is a point that warps the space around it. People stop walking the streets, change their routes, and disappear from the radar. The Result: The social field disintegrates into thousands of isolated "bunkers." The social fabric tears because trust—the foundation of any market according to Mises—is replaced by paranoia. 2. Zelensky and the "Gambler’s Trap" For the leadership, the field has narrowed to a single figure: The Survival of the System at any cost. In the fourth year of the war, the leadership has become a hostage to the Sunk Cost Fallacy. When so many lives and resources have been invested, the system cannot admit a mistake or pivot, as that would mean the collapse of its own legitimacy. The Power Vector: Power is no longer directed toward "victory" in a vacuum, but toward preventing the structure from disintegrating. The TCC is simply a tool to "stitch" the field back together by force where it can no longer be held together by an idea. 3. Where is this Heading? (A Praxeological Forecast) Mises taught us: Interventionism always leads to more interventionism. Economic Leaching: When the field becomes "eerie," capital (human, intellectual, financial) moves into the shadows or emigrates. Institutional Degradation: The TCC and forced mobilization create a "corruption market." This becomes the only way for individuals to survive in such a dense field. The system begins to "eat itself": resources are diverted from national defense toward buying one's way out of the system. Chronic Field Fatigue: Lewin wrote that prolonged exposure to extreme tension leads to either apathy or an explosion. Currently, we are seeing apathy—a "dense and dark" field. It is a state where the individual no longer cares about ideology; they simply want to preserve their physical body. How Does it End? The field cannot remain "eerie" forever. A Phase Transition: A sharp change in the rules of the game (negotiations, power shifts, or structural reform). Systemic Collapse: The system collapses under the weight of its own coercion—when the resources required to maintain force exceed the results produced by that force. PS. Text on the picture ""You can stop the trolley at any moment, but then those who have already been crushed died in vain." image
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Max Parfeniuk 5 months ago
The Empire Collapse Cycle: 1. Hard labor & stable currency. 2. Ascendance & hegemony. 3. Printing money for "bread and circuses" (war and welfare). 4. Social rot and domestic turmoil. 5. Total breakdown or systemic reboot. How do you think where we are? 🤔