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Irene was off on a trip, and many new questions came into play: how was baby León going to sleep when he had never known bottle nor dummy? How was he going to sleep without the breast at 21 months? What was going to happen to Lorenzo, aged five, to have to wait for me to put his little brother to sleep first? #parenting #fatherhood

A diary of fatherhood

Fragments of 2024. Questions, doubts, challenges. Imaginary friends, linguistic habits, privileges. Reflections and anecdotes. Setbacks in raising ...

“The problem with the research isn’t the way it presents caregiving as a burden, but how it presents it only as a burden, with little curiosity on what makes it a burden, and even less on what makes it an opportunity.” Elissa Strauss in When You Care: The Unexpected Magic of Caring for Others

Making room for joy

And the healthy overlap between stress and meaning making

Parenthood’s small battles. The horrible and the positive aspects of the "terrible twos." From adorable baby to mischievous little goblin. Recipes, frustration, and strategies. A small victory on a chaotic morning. If you know strategies that work well for you or have ideas triggered by this text — tricks? resources? — please hit reply and share!

Parenthood’s small battles

The horrible and the positive aspects of the "terrible twos." From adorable baby to mischievous little goblin. Recipes, frustration, and strategies...

Parenting in the smartphone age brings unexpected challenges. From toddlers fixated on digital screens during potty training to the impact of "constant connectivity" on family life. Are smartphones solving problems or creating new ones in early childhood?

Slate Magazine

Everyone Judges the New Parent Who’s Always on His Phone. I Totally Get Him.

On two very different kinds of paying attention.

Women are not only ahead in planning the family’s tasks, but they also remember (and organize) those of the rest of the family members: "Did you call the pediatrician?", "Did you find out if we can take the dog or where to leave it for the vacations?", and a long list of etceteras. This leads to what is commonly referred to as "hidden mental load". And no, my friend, women do not have a factory setup that makes them better at these tasks than men. It's not much of a mystery: these are skills that are acquired and developed with practice. There is no special female biology, which men were denied in their DNA that comes with remarkable domestic or caregiving skills (or for everything we men don't do because they supposedly do it better). More here:

What is the invisible work that we men have trouble seeing?

It is basic arithmetic: if the man takes over more tasks, the other person will do less. Why? Because it is the just and equitable thing to do.

From my garden, good morning! 😃

On a global level, women do 76.2% of all of the care work which is not remunerated, dedicating 3.2 times more time to these tasks than men, according to the International Labour Organisation (ILO). As an exercise, let’s ask ourselves: Who is researching, looking for, finding, choosing and closing the deal on a specialist, pediatrician or therapist to cover the range of needs at different stages of childhood? Who skips work when a child gets sick and can’t go to school? And why is it like this?

A good start is asking ourselves several questions: Why does one of us do the job better than the other? Do I have a natural talent for cleaning bathrooms? Why doesn’t the other one want to learn how to do that? And what’s behind it? A lack of trust? Reproducing co-dependency conditions? A rush of territorial control? If what I do — remunerated work or knowing everything about my children — gives me a determined role and space in a relationship, what happens if I let it go? Can I become expendable, or less desirable?

The Invisible Labor of Motherhood: Confronting the Guilt Gap Between Men and Women

The guilt gap. Women, “anxious” and “exaggerated”, can you step to the side? Men, “comfortable and relaxed,” step in and do what feels ...

As a father, I go back to the role of son for a while and discover things about my parents. Their music, habits and upbringing. Is it harder now to be a parent than it was before? #fatherhood

Thinking About My Late Parents On A Nostalgic Morning

As a father, I go back to the role of son for a while and discover things about my parents. Their music, habits and upbringing. Is it harder now to...

How does it feel to live without a smartphone? ‘Almost spiritual’ Do you agree?

the Guardian

How does it feel to live without a smartphone? ‘Almost spiritual’

For most, giving up a smartphone in 2023 would be an almost inconceivable inconvenience. But those who’ve done it say they found delight with dum...

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It’s hard to strike a balance between how hard it is to be a father versus the joy and wholesomeness of having children. The yin and yang to paternity always fall short: either you whinge too much, or you’re too much of a romanticist. How do you avoid the binaries which are so definitive of this era - that you don’t have to be A or B, but rather A and B (and C, and all of the alphabet together). How to achieve stability and harmony between the opposing, different, complementary and interconnected forces that coexist in #parenthood?

Public complaint, private joy

There is social honour in following a prestigious career. Yet while the pleasures of parenting are profound, they are also private.

Frequent Moves During Childhood Increases Risk of Depression, Study Finds–Here's What Parents Can Do. Do you agree?

Parents

Study Shows Frequent Relocating During Childhood May Lead to Depression Later In Life

Moving is a huge transition, especially for kids. Learn what may contribute to depression and what you can do about it.

The human brain can tackle one task at a time properly; switching tasks is another thing, though at the end you always end up doing one thing at a time. Think You're Multitasking? Think Again https://www.npr.org/2008/10/02/95256794/think-youre-multitasking-think-again

U.S. psychologist Joshua Ziesel described his effort to be more egalitarian by organizing his daughter's birthday. How hard could it be? It is basic arithmetic: if the man takes over more tasks, the other person will do less. Why? Because it is the just and equitable thing to do. What is the invisible work that we men have trouble seeing?

What is the invisible work that we men have trouble seeing?

It is basic arithmetic: if the man takes over more tasks, the other person will do less. Why? Because it is the just and equitable thing to do.